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Catch a Wave for a Better Life

How Did You Feel Today?

Tell me, how was today for you? What if every day could be like today, would that make you happy? Was today the best day ever, one of those days that was better than the days before, or was today very similar to the days of your life as one slowly merges into the next with little change or variation? How did you feel today?

Do you want to have another day, like today, tomorrow?
Would you like to have a better day?
What if every day could be better than the day before?

When you’ve decided to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place. You can say, “Goodbye,” to the same ol’ same ol’ routine of life, but you’re going to have to do some work to make it happen; you can’t just wish for a better life and expect to simply step into it. No fairy godmother is going to wave her magic wand and make it happen. If you want a better life, you’re gonna have to do something, maybe more than you bargained for, but it will be worth it if you really want a better life.

If you’re not going to do the work to live a better life, then that’s okay too. There’s nothing wrong with making the best of the life that you have, but there is a decided and purposeful difference between making the best of what you have and living your best life ever.

It’s all up to you, which would you rather do?

Make the best of the life that you have

Or

Live your best life ever and make the world a better place

There’s no right or wrong answer; it’s all up to you. What do you want to do?

If you want to live your best life and make the world a better place, it will take more than buying my book, and it will take more than reading it. It’s going take action, and it might not be easy. This might be too much to ask of yourself, so if it sounds too much like work to you, then you’re probably not being called to such a high level of excellence, and there’s no problem with that. You can always make the best of the life that you’re living.

If you’re looking to live a better life, be aware of the rare opportunities to catch a wave that could help to raise your vibration and ride that wave. But just like riding a surfboard, if you’re not making the effort to stay on the wave, it will go on without you.

If you missed that wave and it has left you behind, don’t panic; that wave was not meant for you. There’s always another wave. The next big wave could be bigger or better, maybe now, who knows, but one thing’s for sure: Another wave will come.

Inexperienced surfers are expected to crash and burn the first few times when trying to catch a wave, and that’s okay, too, because there’s always another wave.

No use in worrying about the one you missed because another one is on its way. Maybe the next one will be the one for you. Maybe, you will be able to exert the effort necessary to make sure it doesn’t pass you by; and if it does, no problem.

You cannot coast and do nothing and expect to ride the wave. It’s just not going to happen, and if you want to make the best of the life you’re living there’s no fault in that.

God is holding a treasure trove of blessings for you, no matter where you are in life.

Just keep loving and doing the best you can with what you have.

Love, love, love… love is all there really is.

Note: The seventh wave is the biggest wave

Make Your Dream Come True or Not

I know you’re hearing people tell you that you should, “Do what you love,” and the most optimistic encouragers might add, “and the money will come.” While a good part of my work is helping people find their passions and monetizing them, when you hear someone say you can make a fortune doing what you love (which is true) you may have noticed that while it sounds so good at first, something inside you is making you feel like this is not true. You can make your dream come true or not.

Both thoughts are right. While it’s true that you can do what you love and get paid handsomely for it, it is also true that you might not be able to make a dime doing what you love.

When I meet people and they have an idea about the work I do, most of them tell me they have this great invention, business idea, or unwritten book that will change the world and will make a bazillion dollars overnight. Great!

These are the kinds of people that I work with every day, but most of them disqualify themselves as a prospective client by answering the following questions:

1. What have you done today to promote your project?
(Talking to me doesn’t count.)
2. What have you invested in your project before today?
3. What other projects have you completed in the past?

If you don’t have passionately positive answers to these three basic questions, you are a dreamer. No problem with dreamers; we love them, we need them, life would be lackluster without the dreamers in our lives.

Not to be dissuaded by feeling like their answers may have disqualified them, they usually follow up with something like, “No, I don’t want to do it. I want you to do it; you can even put your name on it. I just want you to do it because you’re the master doer. You make things happen. Just do my thing and we’ll split the bazillion dollars 50/50.”

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are serial marketing money making masters who are always searching for the next thing they can exploit, make as much money as they can, then bail out and go on to the next thing. These are not the kinds of people that I work with (okay, maybe I do work with some people, like that).

My preference is to empower someone who is passionate about their project, mission, or message, and they’re actively doing something about it.

Make Your Dream Come True

You can make your dream come true; no doubt about it. I see it all the time, people making their dreams come true, and there’s little more satisfying for me than being able to watch the transformation take place in real time. But the key to making your dreams come true is found in the first (most important) word, “Make,” your dreams come true.
Just like you can’t just imagine a chocolate cake, or repeat the affirmation, “I am enjoying the chocolate cake which is materializing in hands,” and expect it to materialize before you, like magic (although, this can happen, it takes more than just imagination and affirming statements), so it is with your dream; you must “Make,” your dream come true.

The manifesters and creators are busy doing the work of making their dreams true. This is “the secret” to their success; they do the work of making their dreams come true every day.

Everything is Energy

Energy creates all things and if you’re a fan of Einstein, you know that Energy equals MC squared. M represents mass; that means you must have something to work with. C represents speed (the speed of light in a vacuum). So you need something physical to start with, and speed; moving in a particular direction… Squared. That means you’re actively moving twice the speed of anyone else. This is the formula for manifesting or creating anything from energy (which everything is).

Even when you hear about an overnight success, you have no idea what work went on that no one was privy to, going on diligently behind the scenes, laying the foundation for the sudden impact of the idea burgeoning into full expression.

There’s nothing glamorous about doing the work of building your dream when it appears to be fruitless. The law of sowing and reaping is never more clearly apparent than in your life as the manifester or creator. You diligently work your project until you reap the reward of your efforts, the juiciest and most satisfying fruit of all.

Or Not

“Oh, that’s too much work for me. I don’t need another job.”

Awesome. Instead, then, focus on your innate skills, what you’re really good at, and do that. If this is your calling, do that. We need you just as much as we need the manifesters and creators and by all means,

Keep Dreaming

You never know when your dream will fall into place, in the perfect planetary alignment, in the right hands at the right moment in space and time.

 

 

Get ‘er Done with Accountability

You have an idea, you want to do this good thing to make the world a better place, but it seems like you just can’t seem to take the steps necessary to gain enough momentum to bring your idea to life. How can you get ‘er done with accountability?

It’s not unusual for someone who spends a great deal of their life serving others, to neglect their own personal projects. If this applies to you, you could greatly benefit by attracting others to support you and your project, not just encouragers, but accountability partners.

You wouldn’t let someone down who was depending on you to get something done, right? Instead of putting the needs of others before your own needs, you need to feel the same way about serving your own project and accountability partners can increase your obligation to make your project as important to you as someone else’s needs might be.

Your accountability partners are the individuals you recruit who are willing to basically keep you on track, following through on your intentions, and taking the steps necessary to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

You can select your accountability partner from your current circle of influence, such as family, friends, teachers, trainers, doctors or other professionals. For some, it is better to bring in an unprejudiced third-party to increase the accountability (and maintain a certain level of privacy and decorum) like hiring a coach, who is less likely to allow you to slack as much as someone who is more empathetic toward your plight. A professional will be more dependable, reliable and will help to keep you on track if you’re unable to find an adequate accountability partner in your current circle of influence.

When you make a deal with your accountability partner, especially if you have a tendency to not prioritize your own projects. If this is the case, you will need to create a system of checks and balances and your accountability partners can help raise the bar.

Because of your tendency to not follow through on your own projects, you will need to contract with them by giving them your word in your own integrity that you will perform a certain task, or do something specific, within a certain time line. You determine your own deadline, and you agree with your accountability partner, that you will perform particular tasks, or else.

Or else?

Yes, you make an agreement with your accountability partner in your own integrity to do something by a certain deadline or else you must pay the consequences for not following through. You create your own consequence, but it should be great enough (it should hurt) to persuade you to prefer and prioritize your task, increasing your accountability to yourself.

If you fail to follow through, as you promised, your accountability partner makes sure that you keep your word and pay the price for letting yourself down. Of course, the consequence would vary wildly from person to person, because a particular activity that would seem like punishment to one person, might be a cherished moment for someone else.

Since you’re less likely to do the right thing for yourself and you’re more likely to do something for someone else, your accountability partner is your someone else who can help you get ‘er done for your own project.

If you tend to procrastinate or put your own projects on the back burner, an accountability partner can make all the difference.

Angry Much?

Every once and a while, you are likely to lose your grip, allow anger to overtake you and lead you into an emotional display that, depending on how you handle it, could have negative or positive ramifications.

While it’s easy to give in to your emotions when they well up inside of you, there are other alternatives that can give you control of anger, or any other emotions if you are proactive and inclined to do the work necessary to make yourself the master of your emotions.

People are always their weakest when they are angry.

Knowing what anger is, and what causes it to rise up inside you, is a good place to start when trying to tame this wildcat.

Anger is a fear-based negative emotion fueled by the stress hormone, “cortisol,” that could be triggered by nearly anything, such as, pressure from school or work, unexpected change, challenging life circumstances, feeling as though you’re being attacked (or lorded over) by other people, as well as underlying fears like feeling threatened, perception of impending pain, jealousy, disappointment, low self-esteem, fear of failure, or loss.

Giving in to the emotion of anger can actually have a detrimental effect on your physical, psychological and spiritual health. When you are enveloped by anger, your heart rate speeds up, blood pressure builds, stress hormones are released en masse which creates a toxic cocktail for your body and its associated systems.

Think early physiological deterioration, aging, and failing organ function, memory loss, acute minor motor skills, reaction time, just to name a few.

Getting a handle on your anger is one of the best ways to look younger, increase your quality of life and longevity.

Keeping a list handy where you can note when you are triggered to feel anger and what caused the emotion to make you start to feel angry would help to get an idea of when you might be most susceptible to a potentially volatile outburst.

When you’re experiencing a calm state of mind, and are willing to set aside a few minutes to do so, make a list of things that you can think of that make you angry.

To give you an idea, here’s a copy of a client’s list (used by permission):

• When I get an automated computer voice and a long list of numbered options when I call a business for assistance
• Dealing with impatient customers at work
• Having to deal with my mother-in-law (she doesn’t like me much)
• Crazy drivers on the highway during my commute
• Checking my stock values and finding they’ve decreased again

Here are some ideas that help keep the wild beast at bay when you’re feeling like your bubble of calm is about to burst

Chill out; literally. Grabbing something cold and refreshing, like a frozen drink (or a drink with a lot of ice), a slushee, shaved ice or ice cream can hit the spot, and the temperature jolt to your system can have a calming effect, reducing your potential angry outburst.

Take an exhilarating break by taking a walk, or a hike (subject to time and available access). This helps take care of your body, while cortisol (the stress hormone) subsides and is overrun by happy and healthy hormones, such as endorphins, endocannabinoids, dopamine, and serotonin.

If you’re in a private place, you can always crank up the tunes, dance to the music, or sing along as best you can to your favorite song(s).

Write a letter. You don’t have to send it, just write out your emotions, how this person, place or thing made you feel angry. If you’re keeping an anger diary, be sure to leave space for something good that happened today, also.

Do things differently. If you’re exposed to an activity regularly during your day which set off your anger response, alter your routine so as to avoid that particular trigger (like taking an alternative route to and from work, etc.).

These are just a few ideas to get you started on taking charge of your anger, placing you in the driver’s seat of your emotional storage facility.

Knowing what sets you off, and having some tools to interrupt your pattern can move you quickly toward a healthy, happier life, shaving years off your appearance and supporting your long and more satisfying life.

What Is Your Mission?

What is your mission?
Show me.

If you’re really serious about carrying out your life’s mission, you have it clearly defined and written out. Why? Because you will need to refer to this every once and a while to see if you’ve been distracted, or thrown off track by life and its many detours.

In the event, you haven’t created a hard copy of your life’s mission, when is now a good time to write your life’s mission.

Although it may sound overwhelming, you need to approach delineating your life’s mission as a continual work in progress, just like you. Having an idea of your life’s mission clearly defined helps you focused on the work which is in alignment with your purpose, and this is subject to change according to changes and growth in your life as you traverse along your life’s journey.

Before you start writing your mission down on paper (or on your device) it will be helpful to do a quick inventory of your unique skills, talent, and special abilities. Also, take into account when you find yourself “in the zone,” doing the things that you are passionate about and/or activities, that when you’re fully engaged in them, time just seems to disappear.

Create a visualization of what your best day ever might look. See it clearly in your mind’s eye. If you could have your life any way you wanted it, what would it look like? Make your wildest fantasy-day part of your life’s mission.

Write down a list of the things which are the most important to you. The issues which you feel strongly and represent your core values.

Taking all these things in consideration, answer the question,

What am I here for?

In other words, assuming you came to this planet with a specific mission to accomplish, the reason for your being here (which you did), what would it be?

Your inventory of your unique skills, talent and special abilities, passions, what your perfect day might look like and your core values all support your mission. They are part of your being, who you are, and are specially formulated for you and the accomplishment of your mission.

Everything you need to accomplish your life’s mission was placed inside you before you were born and in the best-case scenario grew matured and you honed these special skills along the way to today. In others, their innate abilities may have been suppressed or neglected, in this case, it’s time to start allowing them to come to life.
Now, you have a map that will point the way to your life’s mission. You may not have a clear picture of it yet, but do the best you can, knowing that it will become more and more clear as you start working toward achieving it.

Revise you mission as necessary along the way.

If you have no clear idea about your mission, there is little hope that you will do a very good job of accomplishing it.

So, what is your mission?

Show me.

Where Am I? Lost?

You’ve stepped out of the fog of socially acceptable “normalcy” to forge your own individual path creating leading to a higher vibratory life’s journey. It’s exhilarating, as you continue to grow, change and see things from new, fresh perspectives.

You’re having such an enjoyable time of it, then you stop to survey your surroundings, finding yourself in unfamiliar territory, your first reaction is to panic as you realize that you don’t know where you are and you haven’t even left a trail of breadcrumbs to follow back to safety.

Other fear-based emotions start to set in, you feel your vibration descending and you’re wondering if this whole journey is all it’s cracked up to be?

Where am I? Lost?

Although you might not be able to see it on the surface, but this place, while it might appear to be desolate, scary, maybe a little dangerous, is the most amazing place that you can find yourself in, because you are in a state-changing transition position.

Of course, when you find yourself in these unfamiliar surroundings, you can retreat in fear of what lies ahead (which there’s no harm in that) or you can do what you can to gain your composure, center yourself as best you can, and with as much a calculable sense of direction as possible, keep making your way forward, in anticipatory expectations of something so amazing coming your way.

It is reasonable to expect to leave some of your old self behind, this triggers your sense of danger because a part of you will be dying as you move beyond this inconvenient and uncomfortable place.

This part of you does not want to be left behind, and there’s a part of you that is frightened about leaving it behind due to its having been a part of you for so long. It’s hard to imagine going on without it. That’s why so many people, take it by the hand and retreat to find a way to sustain it, and that’s okay, if you’ve determined it’s not your time to move on.

No one can tell you when it’s time for your transition, only you can know when you’re ready to take the leap.

There’s a part of you that knows you’re not alone in all this, and certainly this is very true, God, the creator of the universe, and everything terrestrial, extra-terrestrial and beyond is there with all the power, support, and has placed all the tools, skills and special abilities to make it through this trying time.

When I find myself in these dark places, I immediately start to look for something more amazing on the horizon and I start making arrangements and calculations to navigate toward it, not matter how my feelings might be telling me just the opposite. This is counter-intuitive and not come easily for me. I have only learned this due to my own experiences of being in my deepest darkest unfathomable depths in my life; and every time, “every time,” something so amazing was waiting for me on the other side of transformation. And, when I felt God was not there, may have never been there, ever, He and all his angels were surrounding me all along; just hard to imagine when you’re in that dark place.

Knowing this doesn’t make the pain or suffering of the transition process any less so, but if you’re like me, there is an enthusiastic expectation that things will get better. Not only better, but so exponentially better, it’s hard not to be excited about the possibilities, even when you’re in the depths of despair.

This moment, though it feels like it could last forever, is temporary, even though it could last for several days to a few years for the transformation to take place.

Don’t give up.

I know it’s hard to wrap your head around the idea of there being any quality of life waiting for you beyond this experience, but it’s always true that,

All things work together for good

Nothing could be more true, even when it seems like the most unlikely possibility.

These is not an empty quote, affirmation, or phrase used to just get you through this rough spot.

What can I do?

You can offer up as little resistance as possible and allow that part of you to come up, so that you can deal with it and allow it to die off. Stay strong, faithful and true to you and your purpose in this life.

Don’t lean on your own understanding, you can’t muscle or think your way through this process as it is a method which can only be positively navigated by the heart and soul. Have faith that your angels are there, will not let anything you can’t handle to take place. They (your angels) will allow you to face your challenges face-to-face knowing what is waiting for the newly expanded version of yourself, while never leaving your side.

Surrender to the process allowing things be what they are and keep moving forward in the best way you can.

Choose to Change EMP

Feeling uncomfortable? Things not turning out the way you had planned? Are you stuck between a rock and a hard place?

When the going gets tough, it’s easy to turn and run and proclaim from the rooftops that you’re a victim of ________________ (fill in the blank).

On the other hand, you could consider the idea of choosing to change. You might reply to such a suggestion with something like, “Of course I would like things to change! Yes, let’s change this thing!”

More likely than not, you are not able to change that thing which is troubling you at the time, but you could choose to change something, right now, in this moment, that could change your life forever.

In fact, it’s the only thing you can do which delivers immediate, measurable, impactful results in a heartbeat. Know what it is?

You Can Change You

This is no wimpy, namby-pamby, rinky-dink, woos-out, whiny, “Well, if I can’t do anything else, I guess I’ll just try to look for the Brightside,” BS. No, this is the strength and the power that is your birthright to have dominion over any obstacle or challenge you might face.

It is your Ctrl-Alt-Delete Trump Card, which you can wield like dropping an EMP (Electromagnetic Pulse) bomb, and Wham! Out go the lights.

In that moment, the whole world changes, from the inside out. You’re no longer the victim. You are in charge of your world, and let the world take notice; for you are a formidable, unlimited, sole-battalion of power with hair-trigger laser accuracy.

“Don’t even think of screwing with me.”

Because you are unscrewable.

It is only possible if you choose to take charge. If you choose to take responsibility and control and change, making the adjustments necessary, you become invincible.

Sound frightening?

Hell, yeah; it means saying, “goodbye,” to the weak-kneed sheep being led around by media and society, like a mindless victim in a zombie-like state, accepting life as its doled out to you, just like you (and everyone you know) were robotically programmed to respond.

Yes!
This is the juncture in your life, where you say,

“I’m not taking your shit anymore!”

“I wield the most powerful force in my universe!”

The times are a changing, and you’re becoming a part of that change if you choose to.

To be a part of the change, you must become the fully-empowered changing-weapon, always looking inward first to change and charge your weapon for deployment.

Don’t be fooled by the sinister sleight-of-hand move or others who will try to keep you small, your power minimized, by thinking you need someone else to help you do this. If you want to do this thing, you have to do it on your own.

This is not a follow-the-leader approach to making yourself feel better. No, that’s the false flag of the enemy, meant to distract you, while secretly maintaining control of you.

No, it’s time to break-free and embrace the powerful you that you were born to be.

Sure, you can take hints from others who may have forged their own way, but you must not follow their footsteps (although you could momentarily) but your real power lies within you waiting to be released by you and you alone.

Are you ready to choose to change and launch your highest and best you?

Love and Marriage

Love is something that we all seek in many forms. Even if you thought that you didn’t want love, if you look at any desire you have for a person, place, thing, or ideal, chances are, beneath it all is love, the longing to love or be loved.

Love permeates all things and as elusive as it might appear, it is always there for you in unlimited volume and scope. Love is so pervasive it is hard to comprehend. Yet, we attempt to define it and put it in our cozy little boxes, but it is for more than you could ever conceive of.

Primal attempts to define love were based on feelings. If two people cared for each other more than they did other people, this was the definition of love.

The love between two people led to a pledging of love one for the other before family and friends. This couple was considered to be married.

The concept of marriage was promptly adopted and promoted by the church, and now we have the sacred bond of marriage.

Before science was a highly thought of concept, people were more likely to believe in magic and to them love appeared to be a magical spell that would overcome an otherwise mostly rational person, turning them into someone who might sacrifice all for the love of another. A cherub with a bow and arrow was blamed for the spell, his name was Cupid.

Courtship is the idea that represents a person who becomes enamored of another then exercises a series of socially accepted rituals to profess one’s affection for the other person in the hope of winning his or her heart.

Love is also considered a passionate sexual bond that exists between two people.

Upon this foundation, we have built revised concepts of love, such as the proliferation of the idea of the sacredness of marriage and its move from religious control to the government (which was a highly profitable move, indeed), though there is a waning of the acceptance of the marriage ideal in the current generation.

Prior to governmental control and profiteering of marriage, divorce was rarely an option. Since the introduction of legally sanctioned divorce and annulment, marriage has become an incredible financial resource for the powers that be.

Modern technology has greatly affected the courtship rituals as it has expanded with the use of mobile devices and social networking. Nonetheless, even though it has changed to adapt to the times, the courtship rituals have survived throughout the ages.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

 

Obsession vs Moderation

You want to feel good about life, enjoying the good things this life has to offer, but there is no doubt that when you’ve found something that makes you feel good, you want to do it again, and again, and again… And as you do, you seek new and exciting ways to have the experience, so that you can feel even better.

Sometimes, your search for that feel-good reaction is so great, that you can begin to ignore other areas of your life that need tending to, and when you find yourself compromising your moral fiber to accommodate your need to achieve your next “feel good” your people start murmuring, using words like, “addicted,” or, “obsessive.”

This is the scary part about seeking happiness. I am a huge promoter of achieving happiness, encouraging others to get all the happiness that is available to them, because if you could have everything you’ve ever wanted out of life, what’s it worth if you weren’t able to be happy, enjoying all the good things this life has to offer.

So, I encourage people to do or be anything you want. “Do it, if it makes you feel good.” If it feels good, that’s a huge indicator that this thing – whatever it is – is good for you.

If you’re like me, right about now, you’re hearing the voice of the robot from Lost in Space insisting, “Danger! Will Robinson, Danger!” as that rational side of your brain harkens, “Too much fun can kill you!” and, like Dr. Smith, calls the robot a, “nincompoop.”

It’s like the common imagery depicting a tiny devil-you which floating over one shoulder, taunts you to seek pleasure at any cost, and the angel-you, floating over the other shoulder, gently urges you to be more responsible and safe.

When I encourage others to get all the happiness possible out of this life, what I mean is to find happiness, to do the things that make you happy.

Obsession

Feeling good is the best thing, but to focus entirely on pleasure-seeking and neglecting you’re achieving your highest and best, is the excess that leads to addiction and obsession. You could get addicted to fun.

And we have the good-lord who endowed us with dopamine to thank for that one. A lot has been aired in the press regarding dopamine and its effect on us in addiction. It’s been referred to as the pleasure and reward seeking neurotransmitter. It has a four-phase loop that it runs, that goes something, like this:

1. Recognizably pleasurable experience
2. Anticipation of the pleasurable experience
3. Elation during the pleasurable experience
4. Creates desire to re-experience the recognized pleasurable experience

There is no dopamine injected prior to your first pleasurable experience because your brain has not determined whether the experience is pleasurable yet. First-timers jump-in on phase 3, as your brain releases dopamine for the first time anchoring itself to this particular activity. Phase 4 also seeks out new and different ways to alter the experience, because doing a thing differently creates a new experience, which releases even more dopamine. Phase 4 keeps triggering you to seek more.

As you traverse your life’s journey you discover these things along the way that release dopamine in the brain, and it’s easy to lose track of other things that have an even higher sense of value and meaning. This applies to all activities that make you feel good from gambling to holding a newborn baby. Dopamine has no regard for moral cues, it sees nothing as good or bad, that’s something you do independently of your dopamine rush.

If you were to reduce yourself to an animalistic creature without any other resources, the dopamine chemical reaction would suffice in defining who you are and how you operate. Thankfully, you are far more than that. Left to your own devices, you might become the addicted, pleasure-seeking zombie, without a conscious, letting nothing get in the way of your pursuits to feel good at any cost.

Moderation

The key here is to successfully find a place of moderation. Find the things that make you feel good, find ways to responsibly integrate them into your life. Don’t let the pursuit of “feeling good” keep you from doing the things in life that add value and significance to your life.

Balance is the secret to a healthy, happy life, and moderation is an effective way to balance all the details of your life, thereby maximizing your life-long experience at a higher level of vibration.

To moderate a potentially addictive behavior takes integrating other systems to override your dopamine pleasure center. It means you’re going to have to do some work to keep it under control. And the same God that gave you dopamine, gave you all the tools you would ever need to exercise moderation. You are not a victim to your neurochemistry, you can be in the driver’s seat if you choose to do so.

You may call on your sense of dignity, raising your awareness, engaging diligently, and calling on your spiritual powers. Whatever it takes, it’s different for each of us. You need to find your own way and determine what works best for you.

Even so, proceed with caution, as your dopamine center could attach itself to your activity of moderating. You don’t want to (or need to be) obsessed with or addicted to moderation, so moderate your moderation, too, if necessary.

Motivation

For me, motivation is the main factor. I am motivated to serve and contribute. While this is a top priority, for me, it does not take over all the rest of my life (moderation here, too). I like to be happy, and following my mission, living my life’s purpose brings many opportunities to enjoy all this life has to offer and to remain in a relative state of happiness along the way.

If your motivation is to be happy, if that’s your top priority, then your purpose in life takes the back seat (and it’s never more in the back seat than in the case of a psychopath whose brain releases four-times the dopamine than a normal person, but that’s a different story).

Putting your motivation to achieve your highest and best out front allows you to do all the good things that could potentially bring joy to others while adding meaning and a sense of purpose to your life, then happiness comes as a result of you’re being true to your individual calling.

By all means, seek to be happy, but serve first.

 

How to See People as They Really Are

You know, you’ve met someone who seems to have so much in common with you, you immediately take a liking to them, only later to find you wish you could know how to see people as they really are.

You let them into your inner circle, then after a while, you see them for who they really are. This person, who seemed so transparent, open, honest and the perfect person for you to work with, or spend your quality time with; you were simpatico. Then, as you get to know them better, you discover they are not the person you thought they were.

You find that they are not even close to who you thought they were, and you’re ashamed of yourself and think,

“How could this person have deceived me, like that?”

It’s easy to jump to conclusions and assume that this person tried to pull a fast one on you to throw you for a loop, which could be true, if he or she is a psychopath or sociopath (which would be rare), while the more likely truth behind this conundrum is that the responsibility for your being “duped” lies solely on you.

It’s all your fault.

In most (if not all) cases, the only person to blame is yourself, so go ahead and give up the notion that you must blame anyone for you’re being fooled into believing that someone was not who you thought they were.

How could I have been so wrong?

Forget the inclination to try to beat yourself up for not seeing this person as they really are. Why? Because you’re a good person. So good, in fact, that you tend to see the best in people. You give them the benefit of the doubt and see them in the most positive light. You see their potential, who they could be, if they embraced all the gifts, talents and special abilities, following their own life’s path to their highest and best.

Why do I do that?

When you meet someone for the first time, you have seven to fifteen seconds to fix in your mind an image of the person you’re meeting. Your mind tries to identify people quickly so that you can posture your method of communication with this person to navigate the conversation in the best possible manner. Your brain quickly tries to identify and categorize this person, so that you can find common ground to communicate effectively, or to protect yourself and not open up, if you’ve determined that this might be a toxic person.

If you’re an expansion explorer, you tend to see things through the eyes of love, or “rose colored glasses.” That is to say you are seeing people and things in all their empowered potential, as the highest and best version possible.

My daughter, Jaycie, is like that. She is a multi-media artist who sees potential magnificence in everything, whether it’s a rock, clump of earth, piece of wood, whatever she sees, she interprets as a blank canvas, and see’s the beauty of the completed project when no one else could. To you and me, it just looks like a piece of rock, but Jaycie is like Michelangelo who saw only David in the rock.

And you, too, are just like that. You see the David in everything you see. David was the potential, but without doing the work, the intricate chiseling away of everything that was not David, we would have never seen the real David realized in his full potential.

You’re Perfect

You are the visionary. In those first few seconds, you saw this person as who they could be, if they did the work. Unfortunately, most people do not do the work, or maybe this person is not unlike you and I, and he or she is in the process of growing, changing and evolving into a higher version of his or her self.

You’re not to blame for seeing someone as the highest and best version of themselves.

People Are More Transparent than You think

While your impression of this person was interrupted by your ability to see them in their best light, more often than not, people are quite transparent about who they are.

If you review your interactions with this person, in retrospect you will notice that they give you clues about what to expect from them at the get-go.

You could have paid more attention to their lack of punctuality, truthfulness, attention to detail, selfishness, or hundreds of other indications clearly warning you about what to expect from this person, but you didn’t take heed to the warnings.

Why? Because you’re such a beautiful person that you overlooked all the warning signs to see only the best potential in this person. After some time has passed, you become more and more aware of their current condition.

This person, whoever it is, is who and where they are in this moment; a work in progress, just like you and me. Only now, it’s (possibly painfully) clear about who and where they are.

What do I do now?

Love and bless them.

He or she is not broken, good, or bad; only who and where they are in this moment. So, accept them as such, and love them just as they are.

If they are not a good fit for you in your inner circle, make the adjustments necessary to reposition them. Move their position to a safer location within your social organization, or extricate them as gently as possible. Thank them, bless them, reposition them, or send them on their way. There is no need for an apology. Things just are as they are, and we all change and grow,  but do not expect this person to change to accommodate your vision of their highest and best.

You Can’t Change Someone Else

Everyone is responsible for their own personal growth and change. It’s not up to you to change them, and you couldn’t if you tried.