The Abundance Mindset Practical Steps to Transform Your Life

Acknowledging the presence of a scarcity mindset is the first step towards breaking free from its restraints. An alternative is to develop an abundance mindset, being open to practical insights and drawing on well-known concepts and examples. Exploring the Law of Attraction and its impact on success helps to lift the veil, revealing the transformative power of positive thinking and intentional focus on opportunities.

The Law of Attraction: Balancing Mystique with Reality

While “The Secret” popularized the Law of Attraction, we’ll refrain from delving into controversial aspects and focus on its practical implications. Whether viewed as mystical or not, there is undeniable evidence that individuals with a positive mindset, actively seeking opportunities, tend to attract success. Conversely, those with a negative outlook and a scarcity mindset face challenges in realizing their goals.

Reticular Activating System:

The Reticular Activating System (RAS) is a fascinating aspect of our brain that filters information based on our focus and goals. Let’s delve into a real-life example to illustrate how the RAS works and how you can leverage it to enhance your life, like when you decide to get a new car.

New Car Example:

Before Decision:

  1. Initial Unawareness: Imagine you’re considering buying a specific make and model of a car, let’s call it the “Blue Horizon.”
  2. Limited Observation: Before contemplating this car, you rarely notice it on the road. It exists, but it doesn’t register prominently in your awareness.

After Decision:

  1. Decision-Making: You decide that the Blue Horizon is the car you want to purchase. Your brain now recognizes it as significant due to your decision-making process.
  2. RAS Activation: Your Reticular Activating System kicks in. It’s like programming your brain to be on the lookout for the Blue Horizon.

Observing the Shift:

  1. Everywhere You Look: Suddenly, you start seeing Blue Horizons everywhere. They seem to appear on your commute, in parking lots, and even in your neighborhood.
  2. Heightened Awareness: The car was always there, but your heightened awareness, courtesy of the activated RAS, makes it more noticeable. Your brain filters out irrelevant information and zooms in on what you’ve deemed important—the Blue Horizon.

Leveraging RAS for a Better Life:

**1. Setting Clear Goals:

    • Define your goals clearly. Whether it’s related to career, personal development, or relationships, be specific about what you want to achieve.

**2. Visualization:

    • Visualize your goals regularly. Imagine your desired outcomes vividly. The more detailed and emotionally charged the visualization, the more likely your RAS will pick up on relevant cues.

**3. Positive Affirmations:

    • Use positive affirmations that align with your goals. Affirmations create a positive mindset and signal to your RAS what to focus on.

**4. Consistent Focus:

    • Stay consistently focused on your goals. The more attention and energy you devote to your objectives, the more your RAS will actively seek opportunities and connections related to them.

**5. Selective Attention:

    • Understand that you can’t focus on everything. Be selective about your priorities. By narrowing your focus, you guide your RAS to filter information that aligns with your chosen path.

**6. Repetition and Reinforcement:

    • Repetition is key. The more you reinforce your goals through thoughts, actions, and habits, the more effectively your RAS will work to align your experiences with your aspirations.

**7. Gratitude Journaling:

    • Keep a gratitude journal. Acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life. This practice reinforces positive thinking and signals your RAS to notice and attract more of those positive elements.

The Reticular Activating System serves as a powerful ally in achieving your goals and enhancing your life. By consciously directing your focus, setting clear intentions, and maintaining a positive mindset, you can harness the potential of the RAS to notice opportunities, connections, and experiences that align with your aspirations.

The Power of Positive Thinking:

At its core, developing an abundance mindset involves thinking positively and actively seeking positivity in life. Numerous studies, such as those conducted by psychologist Martin Seligman on positive psychology, support the idea that a positive outlook contributes to overall well-being and success. Individuals who actively look for solutions and opportunities are more likely to attract positive outcomes.

The Challenge of Subconscious Patterns:

The subconscious mind may resist change even with conscious efforts to adopt a positive mindset. This resistance can manifest as self-sabotage, hindering progress towards set goals. As highlighted by behavioral psychology research, awareness of these patterns is crucial to prevent reverting to old, limiting beliefs.

Addressing Subconscious Resistance:

Individuals must actively work on changing internal beliefs and mindsets to counter subconscious resistance. Developing an abundance mindset involves challenging deep-seated notions about deserving success and financial well-being. By doing so, the subconscious mind can be aligned with positive goals, fostering an environment where success is attainable and welcomed.

In the pursuit of personal and financial growth, cultivating an abundance mindset is a transformative journey. Supported by real-world examples and grounded in the practical implications of the Law of Attraction, this guide provides actionable steps for individuals to break free from the shackles of scarcity thinking. Embracing positivity, intentionally seeking opportunities, and addressing subconscious resistance are critical elements in developing an abundance mindset that paves the way for a more fulfilling and successful life.


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Do Dream Then Do

If you do dream then do what is necessary to bring your dream to fruition, it is yours. Having a dream, an illusionary desire or goal that inspires you, makes you feel good when you focus your thoughts upon them is the basis of readying yourself to receive your heart’s desire. If not followed by inspired action, your dream may just remain a fantasy.

Walt Disney taught us all to dream, and the Law of Attraction took us to the next level of transforming a dream to reality, but in general, there was more of an emphasis on the act of dreaming and less on the doing, and currently, there is a wave of thought that promotes the idea that the act of “doing” is counterproductive to manifesting one’s dreams.

Let me ask you this,

If you dream and do nothing,
can your dream come true?


This does happen occasionally, and we have all heard the stories of this happening. When this occurs, it is miraculous, and it affirms our belief in miracles.

If you look at the numbers, miracle manifestation accounts for less than one-tenth of one percent of all dreams that do come true. Just examining the statistics reveals that all the other dreams that come true are followed by generous portions of doingness.

Your act of doing added to your active dreaming greatly enhances your manifestations. Any movement via inspired action moves you closer to your dream, and all steps that you make toward your dream are cumulative.

Every action you take, no matter how small, moves you closer to what you want.

And for those who are in the habit of making their dreams come true repeatedly, they take massive amounts of action steps toward what they want.

These masters of manifestation may look like workaholics to the average fan of the Law of Attraction, but when all this effort may look like hard work to you (some of it is uncomfortable, difficult, or “hard”) to the master of manifestation, it is fun because this work is performed enthusiastically, powered by the passion of seeing one’s dream come to life.

This is the sweet spot of manifestation, and it is where the majority of all dreams that come true happens.

So, by all means, do dream, then do whatever you can to move yourself toward what you want.

You could start by submerging yourself in the vibration of what you want. Like if you want to manifest a yacht you should join a yacht club and start hanging around people to have yachts.

If you want a Mercedes, start collecting Mercedes merch, display it prominently, wear the pin on formal occasions and the T-shirt informally, and hang out with people who already own Mercedes and as you do, you will be moving closer to having one to call your own.

When the club that represents what it is that you want sponsors a fundraiser, volunteer to assist in any way you can. When you are hob-knobbing and rubbing elbows with the people who are actively plugged-in to the things your heart desires, you will be able to take advantage of rare opportunities to manifest even more.

Make opportunities to hang with the people who are already in the full vibrational flow of what you want to have or where you want to be, and you will increase your rate of manifestation exponentially. This is all a part of the inspired doing that you could be accomplishing to get what you want.


Almost the Law of Attraction

If you know women (and men) who are into mainstream law of attraction, you will find them manifesting better lives, getting all the things they want by practicing meditation, relentlessly reciting mantras, passively doing less and getting more out of life. This is almost the law of attraction.

Watching them go about their practicing this watered-down version of the law of attraction is just enough to drive you nuts because you are a doer. You know what it really takes to make changes in the real world, and in comparison to what you know to be true, these folks just look like lazy people. Nonetheless, they do seek to live good lives and are quite pleased at the improvements they’ve made.

The powers that be are hoping they are happy with that and don’t see the real truth and power of the law of attraction. The law of attraction for real men is the highest level of the law of attraction which is wielded by the most powerful people (men) in the world.

It is important to know the real law of attraction is not what you might have thought it was. For instance, it is not the magical thinking which would qualify as a mental health disorder such as schizotypal personality disorder (DSM-5), but don’t be surprised if your therapist tries to convince you of that to dissuade you from going there.

The law of attraction is not associated with witchcraft, voodoo, any religious order, or parareligious organization. It is the energy which holds all life and matter in perfect harmony. It doesn’t judge or determine what is good or bad, as the most powerful intelligent source of energy in the world, it simply is, and those who know how to use it, they benefit wildly from it.

There is nothing to believe or supernatural about this source energy. It only responds to how each of us direct it, no matter who you are, it is at work 24/7 monitoring your heat, thoughts, emotions, and decisions that you make and acts accordingly, organizing all the details of your life to match your energetic persuasion.

It is not a static or constant form of energy, it evolves and advances and encourages all forms of life to do the same. Those who know how to wield its power have the ability to change their lives and the world to best suit their desires.

Until now, the masses have been the unwitting victims of those who are the original masters of the law of attraction. Those who have discovered the law of attraction have a rudimentary idea about how it works, and they receive benefit from exercising it in the best way they can according to their knowledge of it.

If you talk to your teachers, mentors, doctors, or therapists about the law of attraction, they will tell you that this is nothing to be concerned about, They will downplay its efficacy or deny its existence, claiming it is nothing more than positive thinking or self-hypnosis. Unbeknownst to them, they have been educated (trained and programmed) to be the gatekeepers of the law of the attraction. To be the buffer to prevent the masses from discovering the truth about the most powerful law of the universe, and they have no idea what they are protecting, or have any knowledge of the part they are playing.

LOA for Men

LOA for men is The Law of Attraction for Men by David M Masters. You may have attended an event sponsored by St Paul’s Free University or some other organization that doesn’t mind supporting and promoting a room filled with testosterone-driven men to embrace the principals of the law of attraction in the manliest of ways. This is the Law of Attraction for Real Men.

If you’re a real man, if you’ve heard of the law of attraction, and heaven forbid if you’ve learned about it from your partner or spouse, the idea of this namby pamby oogly googly curl up and suck your thumb in the fetal position while you stare at a candle, meditate, repeating mindless BS, just the idea of it, would be enough to make a billy goat puke.

Your partner says, “Hey babe, just do this and we’ll have everything we want in life.”


Have you lost your mind?

You are never gonna convince me, or any other real man, that I can accomplish anything through giving up everything I’ve worked for, denying the man I’ve become, stop the moving, my momentum forward, as I’ve fought the fight day in and day out for you and those that I love to sit and meditate in my pajamas all day long and daydream about living a better life?

You have lost your mind.

And if anyone else were to bring up such a crazy idea, you can just about face yourself and get out’a Dodge, and the horse you rode in on. You all don’t belong here. Nobody respects that kind of nonsense. Right?

I hear you. I know. This crazy thing happened and the law of attraction, which is a real thing, fell into the hands of a bunch of whiny weak-kneed baby-faced lazy losers, who were able to put it into action and raise the value of their lives. Then they started promoting the heck out of it, like some new peace and love religion.

But that is not what the law of attraction is.

The law of attraction was here long before we were, long before anyone discovered it and leaked it to the masses. The law of attraction has been practiced by the most powerful people who have ever lived on this planet, and they still use it every day to manipulate you (us) and get whatever they want, every day, every second, nonstop.

And these people are NOT nice, benevolent, and loving people. They do not run around all day in their cotton jammies meditating and hoping that something good is going to happen to them, while they join their friends in singing Kumbaya around the campfire.

Nope, they are not doing any of that worthless crap.

They are out there dominating and moving their world and the rest of the world, commanding and demanding using the law of attraction, and you can use this same power for anything you want, if you know how, and anyone can do it, even you.

Now, I know the new age love religion folks are not gonna want to hear this, but it’s true.

The real law of attraction has been wielded most powerfully by the dominators, those people who possess more authority and power than you could possibly imagine (and probably wouldn’t believe it, if you could) every day. And they allow you to have your own little piece of it, as long as you stay weak, and you can live a better life. So have fun.

But right now, there are a growing number of men, real men, who are becoming aware of the law of attraction for real men, and they are changing their lives and the world, in more powerful ways than you could imagine. Look out for these men, they are the movers and shakers of tomorrow, and there is nothing that can stop them.

Oh, baby, I know you been meditating and praying for your husband,

“Oh dear God, please save my husband. Let him see that softness tenderness and laziness that has made me feel so much better.”


Somethin’ better just happened.

You’re husband just woke up to what’s really going on here, and baby, you just go on doin’ your thing, and God bless you for doin’ it, but your husband, he’s stepping into his sacred domination, and it doesn’t look anything like the watered-down law of attraction that you’ve been practicing.

He is stepping into this unlimited power source, he’s kicking ass and taking names like never before.

And you? You get to benefit from being with a man, who will love and care for you and make a massive contribution to others and the world at large.

Now, no one’s asking you to change, because ask yourself this:

How much good could the two of you do in the world working together with this kind of power?

This is the sacred union you were destined to enjoy.

Now, go forth and change the world in power.

And be on the lookout for because something powerful is brewing.

Money Issues and Financial Attraction

Money happens to be one thing in our world that determines who you are and what you can have in this life. If you can get a grasp of how the world really works, you could take back your financial power and solve your money issues, and financial attraction would be your natural state of being.

Everything is energy. Money is energy, and God Source Energy is at your disposal to achieve the financial abundance that is yours. If you’ve thought of it, your heart’s desires are being attracted to you right now. All you have to do is do the work that removes what stands between you and what you want.

Money Can Be a Drag

It seems like everything in life is dictated by how much money (or debt) you have or don’t have. Right? It determines where you live, who you hang out with, what you do with your spare time, how you care for those you love, and it goes on and on. The frustration you feel about money keeps you anchored to where you are and what experiences you have access to in this life.

How you think and feel about money can drag you down and keep you out of the flow of abundance, which is your birthright.

The first and most important step to put you on the track to financial stability and an increasingly abundant lifestyle is to make peace with your money issues and then move forward in grace.

Note that money is just an energetic tool of many, nearly unlimited, energetic possibilities to give you everything you want.

You will find that you can attract more when you take your focus off the green monster of the dollar until you make your peace with it and enjoy it for what it is, not what you’ve suffered through up ‘til now.

It is All About How You Feel and Think

It is your mentality that counts. How you feel and think about the world around you determines your reality in it. Not everyone walking around on this planet operates from the same reality you do.

People with failing businesses “know” it’s hard to get to the top and people at the top “know” it’s easy for anyone to get to the top if they’re willing to work hard on the right things to get there.

Many of the obstacles holding you back were placed there by you and what you believe to be true. A lot of times, you may be the one who is creating the very “rut” you complain about being in.

You can transmute your financial dynamic and begin to master your money frequency.

Become the Master, and Money Becomes Your Servant

When you change your point of view, the whole world changes. Money is neither good nor bad; it is simply an energetic entity available to serve you. You have come here endowed with everything you need to have everything that brings you a sense of joy. You are here to have fun and celebrate all this life has to offer while you are blessed to be here in your body. You should never be a slave to money, instead, you should become the master of money without fear as you learn how to use it as a tool which exists to be in service to you.

This shift in your point of view is the most powerful move you can make.

Experience is More Important Than Money

Most everyone who is trying to manifest more financial abundance is not achieving the results they want because they could be doing it better. They are focusing on the money that they don’t have. If the law of attraction works, it will bring you more of that: what you’re focusing on, the money you don’t have. It is a trap that’s been set by the powers that be. They want to keep you overwhelmed with your lack of everything; money is just one of them, which keeps you financially subdued (which makes them more money).

If you focus instead on what you want, how you want to feel about any particular thing and the experiences you want to have, you are now avoiding the money trap, and you can increase your financial attraction aptitude.

By enjoying more of the experiences you desire to have, your vibration rises. You grow and expand into this higher state of being, which is a match to even more abundance, and you will see the whole world changing around you.

Higher Vibration Makes You a Powerful Financial Attractor

In this state of being, it is not about the money. Money may or may not necessarily be the energetic venue that brings you what you want, but it just appears if you are in the vibration of having what you want. If you are open to allowing your heart’s desires to come to you in any manner possible (or even impossible). Many who have experienced this describe these events as “hard to believe” or “a miracle.”

Higher vibration means you are operating in a stream of life where you are wielding more energetic power. Changing your vibration can be a daunting task for most people. Just trying to be open to the idea of such a thing is more than the average person can fathom.

And if that’s not enough, you are bombarded by a constant barrage of negative news, bills coming in faster than you can pay them, barely getting by, being reminded of how little you have, and all the while seeing the occasional glimpse of the one-percent, those that have all the money, living lavishly, which continues to widen the gap between the haves and the lowly have-nots, who we are more closely associated with. It’s a wonder anyone can break the spell of mediocrity or slavery to the man.

Life is about balance. Doing the work includes ferreting out and removing mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual blockages that are unable to be seen by your conscious self. Just starting to be aware of their existence causes them to start bubbling up to your awareness.

Your Prophetic Video

Mark Victor Hansen told me a story about Bill Gates, how he used technology to inspire his imagination and bring his ideas to life. He created a program to make videos of his ideas, put to music, and adding affirmative text to program his vibration to match the fulfillment of his dreams, and reportedly, watching these videos made them prophetic in nature, helping his ideas and dreams to come to fruition.

The program he created ended up being a part of the Microsoft Office Suite and became hugely popular and used in presentations every day, as PowerPoint.

In the same way, you can use the Prophetic Video method to create your future and make your ideas and dreams come true. Your prophetic videos can be powerful tools of manifestation raising your vibration and vectoring and attracting your heart’s desires to come into your life, like a magnet.

You can use your prophetic video to change your life.

When you’re feeling down. When you’re feeling like your life is not turning out the way you thought it would. When you feel like nothing is going right. When you feel like you thought your potential was far greater than it turned out to be. When it feels like your will to live has left the building, you can use your prophetic video to raise your vibration, increase your potential, attract the lifestyle and all the love in your life that you want, achieve your highest and best, live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

You can and should add your prophetic video to your Law of Attraction tool kit. Your prophetic video takes your affirmations and vision boards to the next level.

You already know the power of video. You can watch a video and it can change your vibrations in a heartbeat. It can take you from laughter and jubilation to heartbreak and tears in an instant.

Now, with you as the director, you can create the life you want by creating and immersing yourself in your own prophetic videos, and watch as things begin to turnaround, first from within, then see them appear in the real world all around you.

This is an exalted form of visualization that fosters growth, change, metamorphosis, and evolution in you and your world.

Prophetic video flat out works for those who embrace this powerful technology.

How to Make Your Prophetic Video

It’s easy. Your prophetic video is a moving picture representation of the life you want to believe and see in your mind’s eye. This is you, and the world that you want to live in, and it starts right here, with your own prophetic video.

In your prophetic video, you will use the same images that you might have used on your vision board which is a visual collage of all the things you want to start seeing and experiencing in your life.

As a therapeutic tool, prophetic videos can be used in raising your lifestyle, even in healing from disease, depression, physical impairments, mental illness, or any other maladies which might be holding you back from your highest and best life.

You can use prophetic videos to reprogram your life, your body, your surroundings, your bank account, and improve your circle of influence as your secret weapon for personal development.

You will need to collect the images which are most meaningful, the words, phrases, or positive affirmations that carry the most impact and resonate with your heart.

You can change the thoughts about your past by reprogramming your mind, fostering healing, by continually watching these powerful films over and over again, building new positive neural networks and healing buried or hidden traumas, until the work is complete.

Creating your prophetic video will take a bit of ingenuity and creativity on your part. Granted, there may be a steep learning curve, but once you have this mastered, you can easily become the master of your own fate and be a powerful influence for a better world.

Your Prophetic Video Challenge

Your challenge, if you decide to accept it, is to create a prophetic video for yourself within the next seven days.

Amidst those seven days, you will need to collect the images, words, sounds, and background music necessary for you to write and direct your own prophetic video which you will use to make a significant change in your life.

It can be as short as 90 seconds or longer, say, up to three minutes, maximum.

Don’t let yourself be intimidated by lack of technology, you can use Microsoft PowerPoint, or any available free video editing suites, such as DaVinci Resolve to edit and create your prophetic video.

For the technologically challenged, you can find How-to videos all over YouTube to help you throughout the process.

The more creativity, inspiration, and effort you put into your prophetic video, the more powerful it will be in changing these areas of your life.

Don’t’ be concerned about what the production might look to others, because this is not about anyone else but you. This is not meant for public consumption, only for you, as a tool to create the love and the life which is your sacred right.

Yes, this is personal, sacred work.

Using this method, you can neutralize negative energy, clear blockages, overcome obstacles, eliminate limiting beliefs, and rise to your own personal best.

Make your prophetic video about any area of your life where you would like to see measurable improvement. You can make it about achieving a significant goal, your living situation, enjoy the best love of your life, creating or expanding your business exponentially, or changing the world, and aspect of it, in the most powerful way.

You are the directory, you are the producer, you are the star, the hero, and the audience for you own prophetic video.

Remember, this is for you and no one else.


Manifest a Yacht

Ever wonder where the frequency of your life vibrates at? You should. Because if you know what frequency you’re at, you are better equipped if you desire to change your life, to have more abundance, live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place. So, where’s your vibration?

If you want to experience the manifestation of an abundant life, know this: You are attracting all the things into your life which you are a vibrational match to, right now.

In our Beyond Science Lab we’re working on a device which reads your standard energy frequency vibration, every thought you think, situation, circumstance, or media hit you are exposed to will raise or lower your human vibration frequency. But there’s no need to use complicated electronic devices to determine the frequency of your vibration.

So, look around, and you’ll see exactly what you’re a vibrational match to. The life that you are living is always a perfect match to your current vibrational frequency setpoint. Always.

But you want more!

Who wouldn’t? And you’re mere wanting of a better life, lover, car, home, financial status, and whatever else is in your idea of the having of an abundant lifestyle are all important pieces of the puzzle which can bring all these things to come to pass.

How Can You Raise Your Vibration?

So, how can you raise your vibration to match the frequency of what you want? The answer is important because this is the quickest way to manifest the desires of your heart with the least amount of effort. And the answer is simple, but it may not be easy. The answer is,

Change Your life

Make your life a vibrational match to what you want. Now there are a couple of ways to go about this. The first will sound a little more reasonable.

Become a Financial Match

This is not always the best way but it is the way which is more commonly embraced by society. If you can raise your financial frequency, the pure number of dollars or financial resources over which you have control, you can affect a substantial change of life, and manifest more abundance.

Using this approach, you will need to evaluate where you are financially now to establish a starting point and then to find out at what level of income you need to be at to have all the things you want. Let’s just take a look at one thing, for example:

Your Very Own Luxury Yacht

You can get an entry-level yacht for around $100,000.00. You don’t have to pay it all at once if you have good credit and a 40% debt to income ratio (that means you have 60% of your monthly income to spend on whatever you want besides living expenses). You will need a $10,000 down payment, $1,500 for personal necessities including life jackets and $600 for insurance, Oh, and you will have to pay for a yacht pilot when you want to take it out as well.

To become a financial match, you need to make at least $50,000 a year and live moderately enough that you can have enough left over to enjoy your yacht at least once-a-month.

You can call vendors of any item your heart desires and ask them what the average cost to buy, own, and maintain it. You can inquire about the financing options, what it would take for the down payment and monthly obligations, even asking what the average income of someone is, who normally owns such an item.

With this data in hand, you can reverse engineer how much you would need to make it happen. Then find ways to raise your income level to match the item(s) you want.

Or you can manifest your yacht in another manner using primarily your vibrational frequency to match the boat you want.

Become a Vibrational Match

You could, using your imagination and power of thought, achieve a state of mind equivalent to that of having your yacht, then when your thoughts along with the feeling of having your yacht match, the yacht will fond its way to you.

This process does not involve making a financial plan but making an energetic plan. You will be focusing your attention every day on the object of your affection. You will cut out articles about it, read news articles and blog posts about people who have a yacht, like the one you want.

You will make vision boards, and spend time imagining every detail about what it would be like to have that yacht and even join a yacht club in accordance with your desire to have one (except for the most exclusive yacht clubs, you don’t have to own a yacht to join the club).

Joining a yacht club has you enjoying the company of people who already have yachts, love talking about them, and these could potentially become your new friends, effectively raising your vibration to match that of the vessel you desire, and may open up the avenues to allow your yacht to appear when you are a perfect match for it.

There is no doubt, there are countless examples of this working efficiently even for those who are not in a financial situation which would normally be required to achieve such an abundant lifestyle.

Love Comes When You Least Expect It

Even when the love manifestors are out there coaching us on how to flip the switch to make love appear in our lives (I know, I’m one of them), why is it that people still claim that love comes when you least expect it?

There’s one dominant reason that people declare love comes when you least expect it, because in most cases that’s the way it goes, even when you’re fervently working toward manifesting your perfect mate.

Getting matched-up with the person who truly is the perfect match for you is not something you want to rush.

Likely, if you’re in the process of finding the right person, especially if the reason is that you’ve selected the wrong person in the past or even a long succession of wrong people in the past, it’s because you’ve been doing it wrong.

It’s not that, “Your picker’s broken.” It’s more that you’re just not doing it right.

There are many reasons why we do it wrong which can be traced all the way back to your birth (and even before).

When you are deliberately and intentionally going about attracting or seeking your ultimate mate, now (hopefully) you’re going about it in a different way. Firstly, you have a better understanding of what you have to bring to a potential relationship.

The best love relationships come as the result of filling yourself with so much love and letting it spill over into the lives of those around you. True love starts with you.

You’ve realized that the way you went about it in the past did not serve you well, so you’re a little (or a lot) more particular about what’s going on inside your potential love interest.

There’s a good chance that in the past, you sort of jumped the gun and found yourself in a full-blown relationship due to premature infatuation. Your body and brain chemistry get triggered and the attraction faction takes over your ability to rationalize what’s happening.

This is a temporary condition. When the chemical reaction begins to subside, you wake up one morning, look over at the person sleeping next to you and ask yourself, “How’d I get myself into this mess?”

At that point, you either try to make the best of it or cut and run.

But when you’re cognizant, purposely and lovingly waiting, holding your own loving and sacred space for “the one,” it’s a whole different deal. You have your hormones in check. You’re aware of your tendency to make bad choices, and you’re more aware of what’s going on around you.

This state of increased awareness and alertness can actually be counterproductive in terms of the laws of attraction.

If you are exerting a great deal of effort and energy in trying to make your true love happen, it may actually produce an energy field which will prevent your beloved to be drawn to you.

It’s as if you are struggling against the current, or swimming upstream in an effort to find your true love, when true love is found in the releasing of energy. You cannot fight your way to true love (even though there are reports of people who have done so. I suspect this is a different kind of love. Even though it does appear to be sustainable over a period of time).

That’s why it appears that love comes when you least expect it.

Because you’re in the process of doing a lot of inner work while you are in the process of attracting your true love, there’s going to be a delay. You’re not going to exchange phone numbers with the first person that you’re attracted to this go-round. You realize this is not in your best interest.

So, it’s going to take longer than the hookups which you’re probably more accustomed to.

Once you’re aware of who you are and who would be best suited for you, there is a sense of urgency, seeking, and filtering process which you engage in, which is upstream activity. Not the best energy for attracting true love, though it can happen.

When you’re nearly ready to collapse from exhaustion (from all the upstream activity), you’re considering the withdrawal from all the “putting yourself out there,” you might want to hold off on deleting your profile.

It’s when you’ve released and let go of the angst and expectation, when you’ve given up, that the holy spirit is allowed to bring true love to you.

That’s why it looks like love comes when you least expect it.

You’ve walked away from the work of seeking love or trying to make love happen with all your best thinking and activity of the flesh.

True love is not an act of the flesh. True love is born of the heart in peaceful and overflowing abundance without any effort, as if floating downstream in love’s flow.

That’s when love comes; when you least expect it.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.


When it comes to changing your life, there is no greater tool to utilize when you’re contemplating a major shift in life than visualization.

Julie Valenti

In case you’re wondering what topic(s) I will write about each day, there really is no preconceived or premeditated program. Whatever comes up that day, either in my life, the life of a client, friend, or family member determines the subject I write about. Like today, I was studying childhood PTSD, reading Julie Valenti’s Knowing How, then followed up with a client who needed some coaching in visualization. So, there you have it.

Visualization is powerful because it helps to “rewire the brain,” as Valenti says. In my practice, visualization followed training in Christian ministry and prayer, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and Hypnotherapy (in that order) and ended up as a progression of these techniques culminating in guided visualization or meditation with concepts of the Law of Attraction thrown in for flavor.

If you have seen Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret, you can get the idea about how to approach the idea of visualization and how it can change life all around you, based on where you focus your attention and practice the feeling of having whatever it is you desire, and it works.

The truth is, my mother told me that I could be whatever I wanted to be, even though very early in life I was non-verbal. I didn’t talk much as a young child, but I could mimic comedy recordings word-for-word and with some degree of enthusiasm. When company would come over, my mother would call me out of my room to put on a performance for the guests. Everyone would laugh, and then I would slink back to hide in my room following my delivery.

This was me exercising visualization by mimicry and pretending, and after a while, I learned communication skills and began to interact verbally with other people. A powerful skill that would come in handy throughout my entire life’s journey, and my mother was right, I could be or do anything. Likewise, you can be or do anything you want.

All it takes is a little visualization, practice, using something we all have been programmed to disregard in adulthood: Imagination. The more powerfully you exercise your imagination muscles and engage your actions, the more powerful your results.

It’s up to you to decide to do the work of using all your powers of imagination to visualize your life, the way you want it to be, bask in the feeling of it being your reality, and act as if it’s the real deal.

The doing of anything is a key component. What you do today determines who you will be.

In the beginning, once you start this effort, it feels ridiculous. You’re thinking this is fakery, and you start to second-guess your efforts with thoughts like, “Who would do such a thing?” followed by a flood of negative self-talk, like, “I’m not good enough,” talented enough, or the other dissuading themes reinforcing your lack of education, resources, finances, abilities, standing in the community, or an endless number of “reasons” justifying your unworthiness.

Norman Vincent Peale

To combat this onslaught of self-doubt and negativity, you kind’a have to go a little overboard in an attempt to rewire your brain. As a young man, books like Norman Vincent Peale’s Power of Positive Thinking and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill were resources that helped to encourage my growth and expansion using my imagination to bridge the gap between here and there.

Napoleon Hill

So, you might have to look in the mirror and practice positive affirmations, study the lives of others who have overcome obstacles to achieve the results you are looking for, create vision boards, and remove yourself from any negative influences during your reprogramming phase. Whatever it takes, do that, don’t let anything prevent you for going for it, and when it doesn’t feel real, allow yourself to pretend and fake it until it becomes true for you.

Thanks to my seizing every opportunity to turn every challenge into an opportunity allowed me to have the most tremendous experiences one could ever imagine in this life. In most cases, when facing insurmountable odds, all I had to do was to use my imagination and pretend that I was fully competent to survive and thrive through the adversity, and the Creator of the universe would support me in kind.

Even when it doesn’t make any sense, and it seems impossible, if you go forward in faith, putting yourself in the proper mindset and acting as if you are fully capable and trust that everything you need will appear in just the right time, your brazenness is rewarded by everything falling into place perfectly.

“Perfectly,” is not always the way you imagined it. Sometimes God knows there is something better He has in store for you, so try to be flexible enough to allow the power of love to override your expectations in your best interest.

You got this.

If You Want It You Can Have It

If You Want It You Can Have It

Yes, if you want it, you can have it. Sounds crazy, right? You might say, “I want it, but it’s not here. So, that must not be true.” Totally understandable, but the truth remains that once you have the pure desire in your heart with love’s vibration for something, God sets it aside for you. Once you’ve felt the desire in your heart, it is done. All you have to do is to get from where you were when you had the thought to where what you want is. So, it is true; if you want it, you can have it.

Of course, there are many ways you can have what you want. You could, and many have, get what you want by defrauding someone else, deception, theft, or any other nefarious degrees of compromising your morals. That’s one approach to getting what you want, and you will find the people who choose this approach either living lavishly, in prison, and/or in fear of going to prison.

For those who are in prison, most of them think it’s a small price to pay for getting what they want, when they want it, most of the time, a minor inconvenience, or a part of life.

The good news is, you don’t have to compromise yourself or sell your soul to the devil to get what you want. God wants you to have the desires of your heart, and the work is done the moment you ask for it, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” (Matthew 7:7).

Really, all I have to do is ask and I can have it?

Yes. Although, you can’t always have it instantly. You must be a vibrational match to what you want for it to be manifest in your life if you want all of creation to conspire to bring it to you, no matter what it is.

It can be anything that you want, food, shelter, clothing, love, passion, abundance, babies, the most exquisite material things, anything, whatever you want, ask for it and it is yours.

It’s up to you whether you compromise yourself or allow the energy of life to present it to you. You can bring it to pass using your best efforts, or ignore it altogether and resign your life to one of lack, living without all the good things in life that God wants you to have.

You deserve the best things in life, and you don’t have to lie, cheat, or steal to have everything you want.

If this idea sounds unfathomable to you, if you think about it,

Aren’t there people in the world who have all the best things in life?

How do you think they got that kind of life?

They (or their parents) followed the ancient principles of life which brings all the energies of all the power of the universe to give them what they want, or they did it at the expense of others, or made it come to pass by force.

I encourage you to consider taking the high road of manifestation and abundance via the power of love following the law of attraction because if you want it, you can have it.

There is so much blessing, goodness, health, abundance, high quality of life, and wealth waiting for you.

What is your heart’s desire?

If you want it, you can have it.