Positive Ions Bad Negative Ions Good

What’s all this hubbub about negative ion energy? We are hearing a lot about negative ions being good for us, but on the surface, “negative” doesn’t sound very positive, does it? It turns out that when it comes to ions, you must just accept that positive ions are negative and negative ions are positive (kind’a how I think about some conditions of algebra), it just is what it is.

The world and all its technology produce ambient energy, toxins, and pollutants that bombard our bodies with positive ions, which is “bad” and we can counter these bad energies by interrupting the positive ions with negative ions, which are “good.”

I first found out about this from Japanese technology that is rooted in energetic material found to exist in that particular part of the world.

Remember that we are talking about energy. Everything is energy, you are energy, I am energy, the space between us, every cell of your body, the space between the cells, everything in the universe, and even the void of outer space is energy. Everything, even the rocks are made of energy. In Japan, 26% of the ground surface is covered by volcanic deposits including volcanic rock which naturally emits energy in the form of negative ions. If you are an energy-sensitive person, and you are visiting Japan for the first time, you may be able to actually feel the energy, and if you have energy sensing equipment, you can certainly measure it. The places where it measures the highest are where the greatest deposits of volcanic rock have settled.

The people from Japan mostly take for granted that they live atop these energetically charged negative ion-producing minerals from inside the volcanic rock. It feeds their soil with energy which enhances the energetic value of what is grown around it. The food that comes from this energetically charged soil has been attributed to playing a major role in the extensive health and longevity of the people who live there.

Their soil is enrichened by the minerals that exist in the volcanic rock that emits high concentrations of negative ionic energy naturally without any external power source. This is quantum science energy at work in a natural environment, allowed to do its work without the intervention of technology.

Since the Japanese live in an environment rich with this energy and eat the food that is born in and infused with this energy, they enjoy long, healthful lives, especially compared to their fellow beings that reside in other countries, such as the United States of America, Canada, and the United Kingdom. In these other countries, they and the other people who live outside Japan, just do not live as long.

Traditionally, Japanese people have used this negative ion energy stone technology to aid in sports performance and to increase the healthful recovery from wounds and disease. They are credited with boosting intelligence, and personal performance, as well as treating a variety of negative emotional states and other physiological ailments.

Scientists in Japan were the first to reveal this energetic technology and they are credited with its discovery. After the release of this information, Japanese entrepreneurs began harvesting energy stones and exporting them as good luck charms, to aid in boosting the immune system, and in alternative healing modalities.

Now that we understand this technology, we can reproduce the results by combining all 70 natural mineral components with the highest precision to provide a constant flow of negative ions with unsurpassed output. This is how quantum science emerges and evolves over time. In the present day, we do not have to harvest from Japan’s Mother Nature.

This engineered volcanic rock is heated and cooled, increasing the heat until the moment that all of the mineral components meld perfectly and resonate with this powerful negative ionic energy in perfect orchestral harmonic resonance, resulting in a bio-ceramic form.

This specific frequency of ionic energy is said to easily pass through the body’s protective layers, infusing the bloodstream with negative ions that help to reduce stress and depression by boosting serotonin and elemental energy in the body. You can also expect to enjoy increased mental concentration and physical dexterity and performance.

 

Exposure to and Healing from Toxic Energies

Everything is energy, which means you and I are also made of energy. You get the idea of the form of energy that you recognize as electricity, which is basically what we are, though our bodies use a higher form of infinitely intelligent energy which is more difficult for us to understand entirely. Energy is what keeps you alive. Your body, without having to be plugged into any outside source, provides the 5 watts of continuous electricity necessary for beating every hour over the course of your life. If your heart stops, it will take 200 to 1,000 volts from an outside source (like a defibrillator) to restart its regular beating, providing your body has the wherewithal to supply the electricity necessary to maintain its activity.

All matter, everything that we can experience with our five senses (and beyond) is also made of this energy, including us. This infinite intelligent energy is referred to by some as God Source Energy, spirit, or any other vast array of definitions that might help us understand this energy that is in all things and cannot be created or destroyed. We live in and our ever-expanding universe is a closed system of this vast energy that keeps everything, I mean “everything” in form and balance.

Since we are energy (though some will disagree with this, so think of it as any way that resonates with you at this moment and call it whatever works best for you) it makes perfect sense to use this very same energy to affect our bodies and the environments that we interact with. Learning how to do this presents a challenge at the moment but we have seen huge scientific advancements in the arena. Quantum theory paved the way for quantum mechanics, and now in the last 30 years or so, we are seeing quantum sciences emerging as human technology and sciences evolve.

Still, the mystics and religious folks discovered ways to harness this energy and effectuate changes in the human body. I first became acquainted with this when I learned laying on of hands healing from Catholic Nuns, and later master training in Reiki. Now, quantum science is discovering other methods to influence energy vibration, frequency, and vibration in the body and the environment around us.

By manipulating a patient’s energy with energy, we can effectively change the frequency of that person’s challenge or problem to an alternate frequency, just like changing the channel on your television. For instance, we could pray for someone who feels as though they have no reason to live and may be suicidal, resulting in a frequency change, where the individual emerges as someone who feels they have value in the community, desires to make a contribution and make the world a better place. You can call that a miracle, if you like, or an energetic frequency adjustment. Whatever you call it? The effects are real. Adding support to the energetic intervention will help the sustainability of the healing process over time.

If everything is energy, then every condition that interrupts the otherwise happy, healthy, and fruitful human being has a specific energetic frequency and signature, as well as every good thing. Change the frequency, and the whole world changes, too.

Let’s not forget the environment, because it can have a great impact on the human body. In a monastery, free from technology, Wi-Fi, and other waves of energy that may have a negative effect on any life frequency, human biology thrives. For the rest of us who live in the real world, we are bombarded by radical energy and toxic pollutants all day long.

These negative frequencies have a devasting effect on you. If you are under constant toxic energies, you will feel it, by noticing a lack of energy, headaches, lethargy, deterioration throughout your physiology, affecting everything from cognition and eyesight to loss of breath, gastrointestinal disorders, and loss of agility and dexterity, and may be a major contributor to promoting the growth and spread of cancer in the body.

Copyright 2022 davidmmasters

 

Quantum Energy Usage and Healing

Everything is energy and as the First Law of Thermodynamics states that “Energy can be changed from one form to another, but it cannot be created or destroyed.” This means the total amount of energy and matter in the Universe remains constant, merely changing from one form to another. This is the science on which quantum energy usage and healing technologies are based. These quantum energy healing technologies use energy to affect the alteration of energy, especially negative energy, to reduce the impact of negative energy and increase the quantity and quality of positive energy in a given area.

This is quantum energy, not rocket science, so this is very simple technology once you learn how to focus it when are where you want to achieve the maximum human efficacy. We have discovered, and continue to discover, the many beneficial ways these alternative energetic technologies can benefit those of us sharing the human condition.

In the beginning, there was nothing, an empty void. Then suddenly, whether God spoke it into being or not, there was a quantum event that resulted in the explosive birth of the existence of energy, light, matter, space, and time, all nearly 14 billion years ago. The date may vary according to any belief system, but there is no doubt about the instant that created our universe including our galaxy and others, which are numerous. According to recent quantum calculations, there may be as many as two trillion galaxies in the universe, and it wasn’t that long ago that we thought our Milky Way was the universe. The future is coming into the present at an alarming rate.

Our universe is made up of infinite energy that to date is still difficult to understand and we are only within the last ten years or so learning how to better measure, track, and direct it. As the scientific knowledge base begins to progress and expand, we will better know how to harness it.

What we do know, is that the quantum energy, the energy that we are using to affect changes in the body and to protect the body from otherwise counterproductive or harmful energy, exists in the spaces between the tiniest pieces of matter.

For instance, you probably remember the idea of what an atom looks like, where the nucleus made of protons and neutrons is held in suspension while the electrons rotate around the nucleus. The atom is a very small energetic component. But the drawing or illustration that you may have remembered seeing, like the one above, was not drawn to scale, because we now know that if the neutron was the size of a golf ball, the electrons would be a football field away.

And what is holding this tiny energy component in perfect harmony? quantum energy. It is the energy that exists between the protons and neutrons and holds them in place and is the force or space between the nucleus and the electrons, holding everything spinning in perfect balance. Even though quantum energy cannot be seen, and only had been introduced to us by science fiction writers in our recent history, it turns out there is far more of this quantum energy than anything else known and makes up the greatest part of our universe. It is the space between all things, no matter how large or small, and is the vacuum of space. It intelligently allows all matter to exist in the manner it is perceived, enjoyed, or shocked by all of us who are blessed to share this experience.

Quantum energy has also been referred to as zero-point energy by science fiction writers and quantum theorists prior to its discovery as a measurable scientific reality.

You might ask, “With all of this energy all around us, why do we have to pay for electricity?” Which is an excellent question. The answer? Well, I’ll let you ponder that one for yourself, but for me? I believe there is a profit-fueled control mechanism in place to prevent the emergence of harnessing the pollution-free energy all around us which certainly could be freely powering all electronic devices all around us. This technology is being suppressed by the powers that be. But be rest assured, these powers are losing their control of us. As more and more of us become more aware of what is really going on, they are losing their grip on us.

They will no longer be able to wield their power of profit over us anymore.

Our stepping up and using these new technologies as they become available to us is one of the methods that we begin to exercise our freedom to exert our personal freedom and lessen their control over us.

Quantum energy is infinite, and we can use it to affect our lives in so many ways, even our physiology. We are finding more and more that this energy can affect our bodies in ways that can be damaging to us, increasing deterioration of the human body and psyche, leading to disease and early demise. And if we do nothing (like we have in the past) this becomes the fate of humanity.

The profiteers have designed medicines, protocols, and medical schools and legislated control over this world, or at least in the United States, to make certain, that, if at all possible, they can fleece us of everything we have been able to accumulate over the course of our lives, prior to being shoveled into a hole in the ground.

Those of us who are awakening are taking a decidedly different approach.

This medical system which has been put into place for the control of the people and the protection of the profiteers is desperately opposed to you, the individual, finding out about these emerging alternative healing devices, and they will do anything and everything they can to dissuade you from embracing these new technologies. This also includes the natural medicines that came long before the emergence of modern medicine. Which they disregard as “folk medicine” which no person in their right mind would consider using in the light of modern pharmacology. (Sarcasm intended.)

Why does the system not want you to embrace these technologies, both ancient and currently emerging quantum energy advancements? Because there is no way to profit from anything that you can pull from the soil or the energy which freely surrounds us and exists within each and every one of us.

They cannot charge us for it (though there may come the day that they decide that they can charge us a tax for using it. This remains to be seen).

Copyright 2022 davidmmasters

 

7 Steps to Recovery from the Affair Infidelity

It happened. You found out, by whatever means that your partner was unfaithful. Here are 7 steps to recovery from the affair. Infidelity has broken your trust and the relationship, but there might still be a chance you can recover from the affair and resume life with the cheater, if you can include these 7 steps in your process of healing and growth together.

Upon discovery, how the couple moves from this point forward will give you a good idea about how you might be able to predict if there is hope for your relationship after infidelity.

People make mistakes, and none of us is flawless. We all experience moments or weakness or indiscretion, but this need not be the death blow to your relationship, though it may feel like that when you first become aware that your partner has cheated on you.

7 Steps to Recovery from the Affair Infidelity

There is a successful formula that can be followed to achieve the best results possible when discovering an affair, dealing with the cheater and the betrayal, and reconciling. Note that even in the best of circumstances, only one of four sincere attempts as at recovery achieve a satisfactory degree of success.

If your attempt to reconcile includes the following 7 ingredients, these elements greatly enhance your chances of success.

1. Initial Separation

When one first hears about or otherwise discovers that there has been a betrayal of trust in the relationship, the initial emotional reactions of either or both parties may be counterproductive to recovering from the affair. It is suggested that a period of separation be imposed by the betrayed to establish a period of time (a minimum of 72 hours or more as designated by the victim) for the victim to have time to process the information and achieve grounding before digging into the details of the tryst. It also gives the unfaithful partner time to consider the gravity of his or her actions. If, during the separation, he or she who conducted the affair contacts the extra-relational partner (especially if sexual conduct is involved) or acts as if he or she is “single,” this will indicate the relationship is unsalvageable, even if the betrayed partner has no awareness of it.

2. Full Disclosure

When the betrayer is forthcoming in disclosing the details openly and honesty, there is a great deal of hope for recovering from the infidelity. The unfaithful partner must be remorseful, and humble. This can be extremely difficult for both parties. The victim of the affair must take caution in asking about details of the affair and have the strength to deal with the answers received in the best way possible. This is very sensitive territory and it will be hard for the partner who had the affair to be forthcoming because he or she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. That’s why they would rather lie about it, because in most circumstances, he or she still loves you. To prove it, he or she will be…

3. Stepping Down

The cheater must be willing to step down and let the suffering partner take chief position in the effort of trying to repair the damage caused by the infidelity. The betrayer has usurped his or her authority by stepping outside the healthy bounds of the relationship. For recovery to be possible, they must be willing to hand the torch to the victim of the betrayal, who will now direct how the process of recovery will go. While steeping down, adopting remorseful humility and establish non-defensive approach to reconciling, will empower effort to reconcile for a more positive and sustainable outcome.

4. Focus on Rebuilding Trust

The trust has been broken and without trust there is no authentic relationship. The victim takes the role of the conductor, guiding the couple through any steps that might be necessary to rebuild the trust. Patience, humility, and loving-kindness in the attitude and responses offered by he or she who conducted the affair will help move things in a positive manner, but be forewarned that this may be a lengthy process as wounds from infidelity often run deep and are the most difficult to heal. This healing will take hard work, dedication, and time.

5. No Contact

The partner who has conducted the affair must be willing to sever all ties to the person who was involved in the act(s) of infidelity. According to the offended partner, the offender may have to conduct a message of “ending it once and for all” with the person with whom he or she conducted the affair with. The wounded partner may want to participate in the statement of final statement of closure in person, or listening in on the statement. Such a message of closure must also include a statement of love, commitment, and dedication to recovery to the betrayed partner. This individual must be avoided at all cost and may have to include a change of job or social interactive circumstances.

6. No Secrets

The unfaithful partner must be willing to live their future with full confidence in the betrayed partner, willing to commit to a full disclosure vibration, keeping no secrets from the partner. If there are any secrets kept, they should be kept with the wounded partner, no one else, in the recovery process. This may include full disclosure or passwords and other keys, surrendering of burner phones and inclusion of historical records, including banking or other secluded information. 100% openness and transparency indicates increased hope of successful reconciliation.

7. Focused Healing

Both parties must be focused on the healing that is necessary to recover from the betrayal of trust in the relationship. Wounded victims may suffer not only emotionally but physiological suffering may have a negative expression in the biological sphere of the betrayed. This may expressed as a deterioration of immunity, loss of energy and added propensity to chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, and/or increased risk of sickness or disease. If both participants are focused on the healing and reparation of the relationship, there is a greatly enhanced hope for recovery.

With these  7 steps to recovery from the affair, infidelity recovery can be possible if two people are committed to arriving at a possible outcome and if they are a part of the recovery process can greatly increase your probability of success.

If you can survive this as a couple, you may be able to continue to grow and increase your intimate connection having survived such a challenge and emerge as one of the power couples that the rest of us mere mortal admire so much.

May you be such an example of overcoming and rising to new height of love and life that we all aspire to.

If not, know that a faithful, loving, and monogamous partner is waiting for you, but he or she will not be able to appear until you have released this one, and signed off on the final chapter of this part of your journey.

 

No Drama Please in Love Relationships

If you have been in a past relationship that had a lot of drama in it, you may have come to a place of unwillingness to accommodate any drama from anyone who may present themselves to you as a potential mate. No one is saying this is a good thing or a bad thing, it just is what it is. This is a form of protection for the sake of self-preservation.

If this applies to your circumstance, at some time in a potential courtship, you may notice one or more apparent inconsistencies which will sound off alarms in your heart and mind. Many a potentially loving relationship was cut short by an early warning detection system raising red flags, which can be found everywhere you look. (This is a natural neurological condition referred to as the reticular activating system or RAS for short.)

If this bit of neural psychology is correct, if you’ve been hurt by someone, you will have reviewed all the little clues that you missed that would have been apparent and available to you consciously had you been more aware or suspicious. In many cases, you miss these signs due to the surge of the hormone Oxytocin which causes rosy retrospection otherwise known as having donned rose-colored glasses.

This is to say, if you are in love, the red flags that may have alerted you to something being amiss were overlooked and misinterpreted as cute inconsistencies or eccentricities or seen as having little meaning or threat.

Upon review following a failed relationship, all these warning signs become painfully apparent which may lead to a condition called pistanthrophobia that presupposes that the victim will be unable to trust anyone who presents him or herself as a potential suitor or suitress.

You want to survive the next relationship, so you’re constantly reviewing the data you’ve processed and measure against your observations of your next potential mate, ever looking for clues that there is trouble amiss.

This is a necessary method of self-preservation. It’s what helps us survive and is a logical way to avoid another bad relationship. The downside?  Pistanthrophobia will likely sabotage all potential future relationships, because it can color normal abstract human behavior as threatening red flags. And the mind will go to great lengths to take the reigns of the imagination and build up cases against any potential romantic relationship on the flimsiest nuggets of misinformation.

This will have the unfortunate consequence of assuring failure after failure for romance for the seeker of true and lasting love, as unsubstantiated clues are met with Miss Interpretation leading to Red Flag Obsession.

Sufferers of pistanthrophobia will prematurely end a potential relationship with a positively loving individual who may display a moment of weakness or a slight misstep that sounds emergency alarms all over town in the life of the overly cautious and protective seeker of true and enduring love. The result? The extermination and loss of a true love potential.

What is the answer?

A qualified family therapist or relationship coach can help an earnest seeker of love, dig up the roots of love failures of the past, process the lessons learned, and move on securely in faith, trust, and true love, a love that starts with one’s self, then overflows into the hearts of others.

All those negative experiences?

Successfully harnessed can help lead you into the powerful love relationship you are looking for.

Don’t give up. Get help. Heal. Get strong. Open your heart, and let your love flow.

Predict If There Is Hope for Your Relationship After Infidelity

You can often predict if there is hope for your relationship after infidelity by paying attention to how the cheater replies to the awareness that such a betrayal has occurred, and how the information was obtained.

If the cheater comes to you with the details of the affair and appears to express remorse over the event and says that he or she will do whatever is necessary to repair the offense and the relationship, there is a good chance the relationship is not only salvageable but may grow to be better and stronger than before the infidelity.

What if You Find Out About Cheating in Any Other Way?

If you heard about the affair in some other way, such as hearing about the infidelity from a third party or caught your partner either in discrepancies or worse yet, actively engaged in unfaithfulness, then there may still be hope for the reparation of your relationship.

If you have been betrayed by your partner, this should never be taken lightly. This is the worst thing that could possibly happen in a relationship. I don’t know how many times I have been told by couples that infidelity is the one dealbreaker in the relationship, to where there could be no recovery. Yet, I have seen these same couples face such a relationship crime and not only recover but thrive as their relationship grows beyond the possibility of couples who have not faced such a challenge.

How the Cheater Responds Will Help Predict Your Relationship Future

If the person who participated in the infidelity demonstrates any of the following responses, there is little or no hope for your relationship having any successful outcome.

Relationship Death Clues

Denies everything Leaves the relationship without discussion
Devalues and disrespects the betrayed Protects objects of infidelity
Inability to be truthful and honest Does not accept responsibility
Chooses to live a life of secrecy and deception The adulterer thinks their needs are primary
Adopts an air of superiority Blames the betrayed partner
No respect for the relationship Not seeing any worthwhile future

You may hear statements that are commonly used by those who are unable to rebuild trust and take the relationship to a new level. These cheaters will say things, like,

  • It’s my body, I can do what I want
  • Any sexual urge I have must be satisfied
  • If no one knows, it doesn’t matter
  • I must feel good, whatever it takes
  • If I am aroused by someone else, I must be with the wrong person
  • If I am stressed, I need (outside) sexual energy
  • That’s how I one-up my partner (by having someone else)
  • I always give, now I’m taking
  • I’ve been with so many, I could never go back

And even though these attitudes and statements statistically reinforce the idea that there is no hope for the relationship, there is still hope, even though the outlook appears to be bleak.

Look Out

The thing to look out for here; is that someone with sociopathic or predatory psychopath tendencies may feign efforts to reconcile only to further brutalize you far worse by increasing the stakes monumentally.

In this case, the sooner you end the relationship, the better.

You can see this is a delicate balance, and by now, you are starting to see the wisdom in seeking out third-party help in a family counselor or relationship coach to help you navigate these murky waters.

Once a Cheater Always a Cheater

It is commonly said “once a cheater always a cheater” and statistically, there is truth to the statement in general, but it does not take into account the great number of success stories that abound about cheaters turned faithful spouses.

How Can I Predict If There Is Hope for My Relationship After Infidelity?

There are certain clues to look for that will in a sense predict if your relationship has a higher chance of surviving infidelity.

Surviving Infidelity Successfully

The number one indicator is that the offender came to you directly, humbly, remorseful, and this is how you found out. In this case, he or she has intimated to you his or her sorrowfulness for the betrayal and the willingness to do anything to make up for the affair. This is the best hope you have for a stronger relationship in the future.

Regardless of how you became aware of the infidelity, the initial response of the offender is a leading indicator of a healthy and positive outcome from this otherwise relationship-destroying crisis.

The cheater

  1. Takes full responsibility, does not blame the faithful partner
  2. Is remorseful, sincerely apologetic, and feels guilty for the betrayal
  3. Seeks forgiveness, and is willing to do whatever is necessary for as long as it takes to heal the relationship
  4. Is completely honest and forthcoming about any and all details regarding the infidelity
  5. Makes a complete break with the object(s) of the infidelity, i.e., no contact
  6. Surrenders all devices and communication methods if requested (burner phones, bills, bank records, email accounts/passwords, etc.)
  7. Allows the betrayed partner to dictate the path the relationship-healing will take

When a cheater is willing to come forth and cooperate in such a manner, the person who was betrayed by the unfaithful partner is more than likely able to do the work necessary to establish trust in the relationship once again.

If your unfaithful partner is willing to come to you with this level of openness and honesty, there is a high probability that a supremely successful relationship with this person who has failed the relationship is likely. (Unless he or she is a predatory individual on the Anti-Social Personality Disorder spectrum.)

These are the two extremes.

No Chance of Recovery

Signs of little chance of success, so that you can feel better about cutting your losses and finding ways to shore up your own self-love and wellbeing and severing ties with a cheater who is likely to make matters even worse if given half-the-chance.

Being forewarned is being forearmed. Unless you decide to try to rebuild the relationship even from this seemingly hopeless position. Let it be known that there are no absolutes in statistics regarding infidelity because after all, the participants are human beings, not statistics. I have seen relationships recover in the harshest circumstances but be fully aware that this is very rare indeed.

Best Chance of Full Recovery

The other extreme depicts the humbly brokenhearted contrite spirit of a man or woman who admits his moment of weakness, acknowledging his or her mistakes, and willingness to do whatever it takes to reestablish trust, wholeness, and oneness.

Restoration is Possible

Even in the best of circumstances, successful relationship restoration may not or may be possible. The best chance of full recovery is only the starting point. In no way am I saying that if the cheater represents himself or herself as honest and repentant as can be, does not mean that the betrayed partner should forgive and reembrace the betrayer based on face value.

Infidelity is a psychological and/or physiological activity that indicates that there is deep work to be done which either or both parties may have no idea what may be simmering deep beneath the surface of either one or both participants in this relationship.

Only the Beginning

Regardless of how you decide to go forward in this relationship, this is only the beginning of a long journey, that could end up being your worst nightmare, or the most glorious awe-inspiring example of love’s power to overcome even the worst of circumstances.

This is why you should seek out a family counselor or relationship coach to help you deal with this growth process who has experience in such things.

Only the going forward or not and time will tell.

 

Unequal Energetic Break up with a Cheater

Many problems can occur within the bounds of relationships, especially when there is an unequal energetic break up with a cheater at hand. Relationships can bring out the best or the worst among the participants and one partner may be shocked at how everything shifts immediately when they have been unequally yoked with a cheater.

In the throes of a love relationship, everything appears to be equal, as this can be an intimate time of sharing and caring. You might even entertain the of growing in a relationship together, even to become “one flesh,” as they say, or there may be an undercurrent of relationship imbalance that you are unaware of.

Sometimes, even the best of couples can find themselves at odds as they realize their paths are no longer headed in the same direction, and parting, as difficult as it can be, appears to be the only logical thing to do.

There is an unequivocal shift of balance at the end of the relationship when one discovers that he or she has been embroiled with a cheater.

They say that, “He who loves the least rules the relationship.” That is to say one of the partners is a little more demanding of subservience, a sort of, “It’s my way or the highway,” attitude. If one of these lovers is a cheater, the one who is cheating is a little more demanding (for he or she loves the least) insisting that, “If you make one wrong move, I am out of here.” And may add, “and you will never hear from or see me again as long as you live,” or something to that effect.

So, it can come as quite a shock to the lover who has caught his or her partner cheating. The offended partner may have undertaken the rigorous painstaking procedures to launch a personal investigation in the hopes of being able to confront the cheater and have a conversation about the offender’s desire to seek intimate attention outside of the relationship.

Often, this is a good way to go about it, because as many jilted partners have found out, to accuse a partner without any evidence can easily be dismissed as blind jealousy or mental instability.

You are ready. You have exerted much meticulous effort to have the documentation necessary to approach your cheating partner, only to find that at the very first mention of infidelity, your partner responds with something, like, “I told you that if you,” (insert any number of conditions) “that I would be gone, forever.”

Then he or she promptly packs his or her bags and leaves to start his or her new life. The groundwork for which has already been laid. The cheater already has new romantic interests in the wings, may have casual sex partners (nowadays, both physical and virtual) , has a strong network of people set up to party and celebrate with, and can easily defame the partner he or she cheated on, proclaiming that the victim was a jealous psycho who accused him or her (the cheater) of horrendous, unbelievable things (though many of them would be, in fact, truths, if not all of them).

All of this was premeditated and put in place, ready to launch in an instant. All you had to do was to question the cheater. The cheater is under no obligation to respond to any of your accusations or proof. Why? Because it is over.

Only you may still be in love. You may be emotionally and physically suffering from the impact of the reality of this situation, and maybe your intention was to try to work through this crisis to see of your relationship would be one of the great relationships which could survive infidelity. And believe me, many do.

I have seen so many couples recover from infidelity, even from the worst-case scenarios and recover in the most miraculous ways, but it takes faith, dedication, commitment, and a willingness to do the deep (most likely the hardest) work to break through to true love. It happens.

Far more often, though, these relationships end abruptly (though many may go through many break-ups on the way to the final one) with one partner joyously celebrating their new life and freedom, while the other one suffers. This is a clear and present unequal energetic break up with a cheater, which is extremely difficult for the partner cheated upon to recover from.

If the cheater is narcissistic, sociopathic, or has psychopathic tendencies, he or she may be very pleased with him- or her-self the more devastating his or her departure is to the victim of the breakup. The more wounded you are, the more powerful they feel. So, they will often flaunt their new celebratory life in your face as they discredit you all the way, just to add insult to any preexisting injury.

Has this ever happened to you?

If it has, please understand that you did nothing wrong. You may feel bad due to being suddenly shocked by the infidelity, the lies, the cheating, and no one would blame you. You are still in love and your ex- not so much. He or she is gone and trashing you all the way as they embark on their new life, while your heart is broken and bleeding.

Try not to give them the satisfaction of seeing you suffer. Healing will take time. Surround yourself with anyone who will not discredit you or call you a liar. Hopefully, you can find someone who will tell you something nice about you for a change. When you find these people keep them close and find your strength from within to feel good about yourself… without the need to strike out at your ex.

Most people will seek some revenge and want to expose the cheater with the truth of the proof they have gathered. Believe me, this will only prolong your healing process, and make your life even more drama prone. Resist seeking revenge.

The best revenge is to live a vastly successful and amazing life, regardless of what challenges you may have faced. Focus on doing that, as you ignore your naysayers.

You may find yourself participating in poor self-talk, ruminating about the past, thinking about the time and energy you wasted truly loving this person, beating yourself up for not seeing this sooner, or any other type of negative thought patterns. Please find ways to resist doing so, and thank God, that you found out now, and not later. (This could have been far worse if it had been allowed to continue even longer.)

You are better off without this person’s deceit and lies in your life.

Though it may not seem like it right now, know this: There is someone out there who is so well suited for you that every moment you spend with him or her will seem like a miracle in comparison to this experience.

 

 

I Almost Married a Mexican Hooker!

Six months ago, a business consulting client of mine comes in for his regularly scheduled appointment and says, “I almost married a Mexican hooker!” I think he gets the award for the most shocking opening line. If that doesn’t get your attention, I don’t know what does.

As a business consultant, coach, and counselor, if you are worth your salt in this line of work, your intuitive resources are vast and you’re able to shift your focus quickly and precisely or be able to call in backup in a heartbeat.

In this circumstance, I was able to shift gears and swap hats to help my client navigate this drastic distraction from his forward momentum focused on his track of personal growth and business success.

As a business consultant, I was casually aware of James’ engagement to Maria, and they have been cohabitating for a year since becoming engaged. He had also mentioned before that communication between him and his betrothed was periodically complex due to English being her second language. He had intimated those misunderstandings were commonplace and she would get upset and react negatively once she had misunderstood what he had said.

After a while, James would be able to explain what he had meant to her satisfaction and she would drop her defensive attacks, but bring them up amidst later complicated entanglements where details lost in translation were seen as attacks on Maria’s unquestionable character.

One day, about three months earlier, his brother saw Maria leave her car in a restaurant parking lot and get into another car driven by a man. James’ brother felt uneasy about witnessing this event that his intention was to follow her in this car to see where she was headed but lost them at the traffic light.

Still feeling uneasy about the situation, he told James about what he had seen. James thought he had felt a mysterious disconnection in their relationship, so he had decided to hire a Private Investigator. I was not aware of this chapter taking place as James and I were focused on his buying another business at the time. This says a lot about his ability to move forward even when facing an otherwise distracting time of life at the same time.

He said that he felt he could release the pressure of worrying about the situation by hiring the PI, and that was his intention for just hiring someone else to deal with it. If it turned out to be nothing, no problem. If it ended up being something to be dealt with, he would tend to it when it came to light. (Had he asked me, I might have advised against hiring a detective, as I am of the opinion that it should be a last-ditch effort, not the first line of defense.)

It turns out his brother’s concerns were warranted, but she was not having an affair. This was not a boyfriend. No, he was one of a long line of casual sex partners that she was servicing throughout the week for over a year. Two to three times a week Maria would have them pick her up in an agreed-upon public parking lot and return her to her car after the deed was done (which usually took about an hour and a half). Most of them were one-time-only clients.

According to the investigator, and unbeknownst to James, Maria has two high-functioning cell phones to conduct her affairs that are not related to her personal cell phone account. One phone utilizes an app that functions as a discrete hook-up device for live meetups. This app accounts for meetings, like the one James’ brother witnessed. Maria’s parking lot rendezvous average 26 minutes from pickup to return to her car.

The other phone uses another app that is used for paid live video mutual masturbation as an alternative source of revenue. The jury is still out on whether the live parking lot meetings are also an alternate source of funding, but James’ inclination is that these are paid trysts as well.

Armed with evidence and verifiable data provided by the P.I., James confronted his fiancé and she denied everything and caused a huge quarrel with Maria where she accused James of being a jealous and vindictive person who judged her cruelly for being Mexican, packed her bags, and exited the premises.

James is confused and distraught, as he was well in love with Maria and desired to marry her, but rather than talking this out and seeing their relationship could continue, she just took off and him holding the empty bag. He has dodged the bullet of a potentially toxic marriage.

I am helping to support him with his varying issues and feelings about all this as we continue to move forward with his business dealings, hoping not to let any complications of his personal life interfere with his professional performance.

A good consultant, coach, or counselor should be able to be highly adaptive to the client’s needs as challenges arise. Had I not had these skills onboard, I would have called in some relationship back up right away. I work with a wide variety of consultants, coaches, and counselors, with wide-spanning areas of expertise. My clients and I are comforted knowing help is just a call, text, or email away.

Let life have its way with you but don’t let it stop your forward momentum professionally.*

* =Or at least try to keep it to a minimum.

What You Do Today Determines Who You Will Be

You are the most powerful person in your world today. What you do today determines who you will be. Your choices today have a huge impact on your future. You are creating the path of your life based on your thoughts, the words you speak, and what you do.

What You Do Today Determines Who You Will Be

Gandhi
Gandhi

You already know the best predictor of future events is what happened in the past. What happened today has the greatest, most relevant, impact on what lies ahead, because it could shift the entire future. As Gandhi has said, “The future depends on what you do today.”

What You Think, Say, and Do

Your thoughts are so powerful, they are what you spend most of your waking hours doing, and their effect on your life is immeasurable. Largely, the world influences what you spend your waking hours thinking about.

Change Your Thinking

Consider this; if you could change what you think about, you can change your life for the better.

This is the most impactful action you can take is to start at the biological root of your life’s energy systems. The more attention you pay to your thoughts, you can take action to immediately (or as soon as possible) choose a new thought, replacing a negative thought with something very positive.

Change Your Words

Your words are an expression of your thoughts that run so deep. Your thoughts are based on impulses you are exposed to every moment of every day and hugely influenced by every moment you have lived to now.

The words you speak are very powerful, and your voice box is the doorway to your heart. A negative thought influences your biology and your life greatly but speaking of the negativity opens the pathway to your heart, where it can affect your entire being and the life that surrounds you.

Making a conscious effort to guard your words, consciously deciding what words you will speak, will change your life accordingly. Talk about the good things you want in life and do not dwell (think too much) about the negative things in life, those things over which you have no control.

Change What You Do

When you take any action on something you think about or based on some influential ideology, whatever you do takes time. Time is a good measurement of all things. If you are doing anything that is not in alignment with the future that you desire for yourself, you will be miles ahead in having the life you want by finding ways to spend less time doing the things that do not serve the future you would like to see for yourself (possibly eliminating them altogether if you can) and doing more of the things (ideally only the things) that will direct your path to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

Today, what you think, what you say, what you do, determines who you are tomorrow. The good news is, today is a new day.

How You Do It

T. Harve Eker

It’s not only about what you do, but also about how you do a thing. T. Harv Eker has coined the phrase, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

As you become aware of the things you think, say, and do, you might find yourself learning how you do things. Certainly, there are things that you do in your life that you could do better. If you work for a company or any organization, management is not only looking at what you are doing but how you are doing it. Skilled managers are looking at how the staff handles various tasks are and always looking for ways that they could increase their performance.

You might want to think about applying this strategy to your life as well. Look at the way you are doing the things in your life.

Review

Before you turn in at night, or throughout the day, try to evaluate the things you do from an external perspective and ask yourself, “Could I have done that better?” Then ask yourself, “How could I do that better the next time?” Allowing for the possibility of not doing a thing.

If some action is not serving your higher purpose in life, yet it must be done, think about delegating the task to someone else to whom it is better suited, delegate it, outsource it, or eliminate it if possible, replacing it with a task that will draw you closer to your desired life, thereby maximizing your potential.

Your Choices = Your Future

Those things that you choose to think, say, and do today

Dr. Tim Madding says,

Tim Madding

It’s known as the principle of the path. The path you take today will lead you to a destination later. You should never be surprised where you end up since it is based on a series of decisions made.

“Why am I in so much debt?”

Because you purchased stuff you have chosen that you could not afford.

“Why is my marriage so horrible?”

Because you chose to marry someone you didn’t know and chose not to develop relationship goals to overcome differences.

“Why am I getting divorced?”

Because you chose to flirt with that woman at the office, then go out of your way to see her, then started hanging out and then started sleeping together.

Today what you think, what you say, and what you do determines who you are tomorrow, and you can change your future based on how you do this day.

What are you thinking?

What words are you using?

What are you doing?

 

How to Exert Mind Control Over the Masses

Daniel and I were talking the other day and were discussing subliminal mind control, and we both referenced seeing the same video on YouTube wherein Darren Brown uses subliminal advertising to influence the creative output of a pair of advertising executives. Here is the video:

 

This was part of a discussion we were having about the significant power of sway that the news, media, and advertising over the minds of the people. There is no doubt that we are evolving in thought, changing, and adapting our outlook on life, our opinions, and how we feel about certain topics as we gather new information from these sources.

Some of the media persuasion is bold and overt, while others are subdued, reduced to slipping past the conscious gatekeeper of the mind in an attempt to communicate an idea or thought subconsciously without being recognized by your rational filters.

Television shows, movies, videos, magazines, and tabloids are in charge of presenting ideas to the masses, to persuade them to accept what is cool, desirable, stupid, rude, or utterly offensive. A general rule of thumb to determine who is behind the core message of the media is to ferret out who is funding the project, or as they say, to follow the money.  (Though keep in mind, the actual funding source may be hidden behind many layers of shell corporation. It may take a concerted effort.)

 

How to Exert Mind Control Over the Masses

1 – Disrupt Normal Thought Process

To sway public opinion, you must present the people with a tragic scenario, left with a tough decision to make.

2 – Present the Desired Response

This would be a hard decision for anyone to make but must be presented as the only reasonable option with the best outcome.

3 – Reinforce the Proposed Solution

Reinforce the scenario by delaying any immediate action. Keep supporting “if this” = “then that” is the best action to take.

4 – Storytelling

Storytelling in different ways helps to reinforce the desired result.

5 – Use Games and Training Exercises

Game playing and running through training exercises also help to establish the ability to make instant decisions and taking actions that would normally be hard to do in real-life scenarios.

We see this in everything from schools and religious orders to military and paramilitary organizations.

6 – Create a Manipulative Event

Governments and political groups have used falsified scenarios that have played out in the media to sway the opinion of the masses. A terrifying case is set up and portrayed in the media to sway public opinion, if it is terrifying enough, the goal is achieved, and support garnered, even if the mind of the people were previously against any sort of thought process. This process is referred to as a “false flag” scenario.

People will change entire belief systems in favor of safety and security.

You may even see such a scenario played out among competing businesses. If one business can create the illusion that the other business is in some way responsible for some horrifying event, the consumer consciousness can be converted to support the competition.

The key is to play out the scenario so effectively that the actual source could never be detected.

7 – Fear

High emotion and fear are the most persuasive tones that breakthrough the rational mind’s defenses. If the negative emotions of the people can be aroused, their minds can be changed and they might even be persuaded to protest or even take action based on the information provided.

Fake News

This has turned into a hobby for social media persuaders. Using social media platforms, anyone can present any idea that arouses the negative emotions of others and present it as newsworthy truth. If enough people fall for it, their post goes viral. This is their reward. Today it is a common pastime of many a social media user.

Yes, there are “fact-checkers” that can be accessed by social media users, but as you may have guessed, these, too, can be manipulated by those who seek to exert control over the masses.

Misinformation

Thanks to the Internet and instant access to any information available to anyone at any time, the veil between those truly in the know and those who were controlled by media has fallen. This has given way and necessitated those who would like to control the masses by propaganda to flood the Internet with even more misinformation. The idea here is to create instability in the platform (Internet), enough so that it would cause reason to doubt whatever might be found via your favorite search engine, assuming the results were unfiltered.

Censorship

This brings us to the next method of public mind manipulation, censorship. We are seeing the biggest providers of information obtained by the Internet, mainly Google and Facebook, censoring information to “protect their users.”

You know where that’s leading, right?

What do I think?

I don’t like censorship and I believe that there should be unfiltered access to the Internet. I think that people should be able to filter their own information to suit themselves and take full responsibility for doing so. It appears to me that controlling information to manipulate the thoughts of individuals, all but eliminates individualism.

I make this statement for myself and no one else.

As I caution anyone, even as I share my ideas with you, do not believe me. Get out there. Do your own research and come to your own conclusions.

This is your sacred right. Exercise it